Confidence is something that doesn’t come naturally to a lot of us. However, I find that something like confidence can actually be a learnt behaviour and less likely to be something that comes naturally. In fact. Many of the most confident people we probably come across in our daily lives are less likely to naturally be that way and more likely to have picked up a few tricks of the trade along the way. You often find that sometimes different events in your life can have a big impact on your confidence levels. Doing something great in work, progressing in your career or even feeling the love from a partner or your family. They can all boost your confidence. But what happens in those periods of your life where you are not getting that promotion or pay rise, when things are a little more tough than you would like them to be, what happens then? I wanted to share with you some of the ways you can inject some confidence into your life. Some of which you could start right now. I hope they help you to feel more confident in everyday
Read self help books
There are some great books out there these days that can really help you to start feeling more confident. They all have different methods so it is a case of finding the best one for you. Not every self help book you will read will help, but they can certainly give you the tools to work on your own methods. Books like The Secret are really popular and use methods like visions boards and positive thought processes, whereas others like the one thing help you to prioritise your workload and feel confident in what you are doing. A quick look online will help you identify the best ones to try. Even if you read a few pages each evening or take on one point a day and try and change your behaviour and habits on a more gradual way, you will start to feel more at ease and more confident.
Dress to impress
Surprisingly, how you dress can have a huge impact on your confidence, and it is all about dressing for occasion. For example, when it comes to work, you need to consider some of the ways you come across. A big meeting or sales presentation means that dressing to impress or power dressing as it can be referred to can be a big way to boost your confidence. You instantly feel like you are playing the part and looking like you are on top of things can be half the battle. It can all be about physical appearance, and no one needs to know that underneath the exterior you are paddling to keep afloat and not really sure about what you are doing. Appearance is half the battle, and nailing it can give you an instant boost.
Change your hairstyle and physical appearance
On the subject of appearance and what you wear, you may want to start thinking about other aspects of your appearance that you can make changes to. Appearance in your hair, for starters, can instantly transform the way you look and even just a visit to the hairdressers can have you feeling fabulous. Whether you like the idea of looking for inspiration for the best bob haircuts or how to make more of your long locks. Again with physical appearance you can also consider things like makeup and how you present yourself. These two things can really help to boost your confidence and they can be really simple to make changes to. Just stick with what makes you feel good and what will help to enhance your actions. Be that in work or your daily routine and life.
It’s all in the scent
Sometimes it isn’t about the physical changes but the impact you have on others that can boost your confidence, and would you believe that your scent can be one of the easiest ways to do it. Sprtizing your favourite perfume or even just feeling confident when it comes to your personal hygiene such as cleanliness and even using a scented body lotion can really boost your confidence. Also your scent can be a conversation starter.
Think about self-care
The next thing to think about would be self-care. It might be in the simplest of forms where you just indulge in some time for yourself. This could be heading to bed earlier so you feel more awake and rejuvenated for the day, which can instantly give you that confidence boost of nailing it. It might be enjoying a nice warm bath to help you relax and unwind at night, or it could even be self-care in terms of taking a few moments to complete your skincare routine instead of rushing it. Self-care can also be a mental thing, and surprisingly taking care of your mental health can really help to boost your confidence levels as you become more intune with your thoughts and how you are acting. Self-care can also be about gratitude and filling yourself up by reminding you that there are some great things to feel happy about. Grateful for your health or your day, things that have happened and your family. Spending five minutes to be thankful can really help you to feel at ease and also confident in your life choices. It can make the world of difference.
Positive thinking can go a long way
Another thing to consider would the way you think. We may have already touched on this subject a little but actually it deserves a whole paragraph in its own right. Positive thinking is powerful. It can turn any situation around but just a few different thoughts and it can even help you to understand things differently. Positive thinking can feel very forced at first. It is about ensuring that every thought you have is apositive one, even if you start to think negatively the idea is to turn that negative into something more positive. Once you start to do it more often you find that you will create new habits to replace odl negative ones, and you’ll end up naturally thinking more positive, which in turn will help you to look and feel more confident.
It isn’t crazy to talk to yourself
So many times we are told that taking to ourselves could be a sign of craziness. While having a full blown conversation with yourself could be quite questionable, there is something in talking to yourself and telling yourself the right messages. There is a difference between someone looking at themselves in the mirror and regularly repeating positive affirmations of how they want to feel or how they want something to go. Saying things like “you are worthy of this” “you are amazing” “you look fantastic” are absolutely fine. More people use this action to really affirm what they want out of life, and this can be directly associated with books and thought processes like the secret, which encourages you to tell the universe what you want and use the law of attraction to get it. After all, you are your biggest fan, and so telling yourself every once in awhile how awesome you are is no bad thing at all, and should definitely be encouraged if you are looking to boost your confidence.
Take compliments on board
Some people find it really difficult to take compliments from others. When someone tells you that you have done a good job you might instantly dismiss them and not accept it. However, compliments and praise are a great way to boost your confidence. The truth is, a compliment is an opinion about you formed by someone else. You have no control over that thought that they have had about you, so if they choose to think that you are amazing then accept that and own it. Compliments are hard to handle and they can embarrass you in some way, but don’t ever dismiss someone else’s opinion on yourself. This is where you can learn attributes and great things about you that you never even thought was a possibility.
Take on the criticism
Finally, just as much as you should take on the compliments you also need to be weary and take on the criticisms you recieve. Some people can’t accept criticism well, just like they can’t take a compliment and often this sort of behaviour goes hand in hand. Criticism should not be seen as a bad thing, in fact, it is a great way to help you improve on things and to only get better. Someone criticising you, and when it comes from a good place, genuinely means they are trying to help you succeed. I understand that some people though can also say criticism from a bad place, and while it is good to take on board some critique, it is also worth remembering that you can choose to decline other people’s opinions of you. The best advice is to no what is sincere and what isn’t.
I hope that these tips help you to inject some confidence in your life.