Phoebe: So, how was the honeymoon?

Monica: Oh, so much fun. But the best part is we met this incredible couple on the flight back.

Phoebe: That was the best part? [To Chandler] Good honeymooning, Tiger. -Friends

Last weekend I finally started to feel like myself. My stupid rash was almost gone, and Match and I had the whole weekend off together which we spent with some of the different couple friends we have. Saturday we drove to the East Bay with Couple Wife and Baby to cheer Couple Hubby on as he competed in Autocross Nationals. For those of you who don’t know, Autocross is car racing around a track set up by cones in a giant parking lot. It’s actually much more fun to watch than Nascar where they just drive in circles. The track has lots of corners and sometimes the cars spin out. Match was in little boy heaven watching all the nice cars and getting to stand with the guys between runs.Meanwhile, I was in Auntie heaven playing with Couple Baby who is cute as a button. Oh, and Couple Hubby won! Yay!  Also, Couple Wife was back to her old self, and I think Match was right when he said she was just having an “off day”. (more…)

Lisa: I wonder why Mom and Dad are doing marriage counseling. If you listen closely, you can here them arguing now. (they then listen closely)
Homer (in distance): And I say a monkey can mow our lawn! -The Simpsons

Coast Sister sent me this link to an article, written by a bitter divorcee, and it got me so fired up I had to blog about it. The article, written by Sandra Tsing Loh, basically denounces marriage as outdated and useless in today’s world.

I think what bothers me the most is how Sandra feels it’s not worth it to work on a relationship. When you’ve been together with someone for a long time, you have to make time for each other, reignite that spark. It’s work, but anything worthwhile is going to take a little effort.

On the one hand, I do think that there are times divorce is necessary. I’m a child of divorce, and I can tell you, had my parents stayed together I would have been begging for them to separate. But before it comes to that big D, you have to try to make things work. In the article Sandra talks about her girlfriend who is also contemplating divorce. She says her husband won’t sleep with her anymore because she’s gained so much weight. She binge eats because he won’t sleep with her. Both husband and wife should have started communicating when this first happened. Go to counseling, figure out the problem, seek a solution. Don’t just stick your head in the sand, shrug and say, this is my life and it sucks.  You break out the Kettlebell and start working out, if nothing to feel better about yourself. Then you communicate with your husband and say the reasons you’ve gained weight is because you don’t feel wanted anymore. You talk to each other, what a novel concept!

Match and I discussed it and we both agree that divorce should be the very last resort. It just bothers me that in some ways our society is so throw away, so disposable. Even marriage to some people isn’t “til death do us part”. Instead it has become, “until it becomes inconvenient”. I think this attitude roles over into work ethic, parenting, et cetera. It’s just a bad way of thinking in general.

I know that when it comes my time to say I do, I will make sure I know my partner, and know that we will work. It’s not a decision I will take lightly, because I don’t want to end up in that percentale of the divorced and bitter. So what about you readers? Do you believe in marriage?

Ashley: It’s not that simple. The problem is I have a…

Berg: You have a what? A plane to catch? A rash?

Ashley: No Berg, I have a boyfriend. -Two Guys, A Girl, and a Pizza Place

I’ve blogged about the evilness that is my sensitive skin before. After my half marathon, I developed a rash on my legs where I couldn’t wear clothes and basically had to stay home for a week wrapped in ice packs. It’s weird, my skin tans, and you wouldn’t know it just by looking at it, but my skin is the most sensitive thing in the world. If it were a person, it would cry at Hallmark commercials. I swear to you, if I even look at scented lotion I get hives. So I wasn’t too surprised two weeks ago when I got out of the shower and noticed little red bumps all over my stomach and chest. (more…)