What to DIY and What Not To DIY for Your Wedding

A DIY wedding can save you a lot of money, but it can also cause you a lot of stress. Even if you don’t do everything yourself, many couples decide to do some things themselves. It allows them to save a bit of cash and add a personal touch to their special day. The question is, what should you DIY and what’s better off left to the professionals?

 

Professional: Scheduling the Day

 

You probably think that it’s pretty easy for you to schedule everything, and decide what will be happening and when. It’s not as easy as you might hope it would be, but it’s also not the most complicated thing in the world. You probably will be involved in deciding how the day will progress, no matter what you do. However, the one thing you don’t want to do is to be in charge of scheduling on your wedding day. You have enough to worry about, without running around and trying to make sure everything is happening at the right time. Hire a coordinator instead.

 

DIY: Stationery

 

One of the first things that you’re likely to do for your wedding is send out save the date cards or invitations. The good thing about these is that even when you choose a professional route, you can still do a bit of DIY. You can either make your stationery from scratch (try to keep it simple), or you can use a website that will allow you to customize everything. This is an easy way to put your personal touch on your stationery while also saving money and receiving a professional finish.

 

Professional: Flowers

 

Flowers are everywhere at a wedding, from the venue to the bridal party bouquets and the groomsmen’s boutonnieres. It could be easy to convince yourself when looking at flower arrangements, that you could easily do it yourself. However, flower arranging is more difficult than you think. Not only that but if you do it yourself, you need to deal with collecting and arranging your flowers at the last minute. You don’t need that just before you get married. Use a professional florist if you want to have all of your flowers ready on time.

DIY: Decorations

 

If you want to help with decorating, making some decorations could be a lot easier for you to handle. They’re not going to perish before the big day, so you can make them in advance. Even paper decorations can look charming if you choose the right design. In particular, creating decorations for the ceremony is a good way to save some money. The ceremony won’t last long, so spending a lot of money on decorating might not be a priority for you. It’s easy to create some baskets of flowers or buy some candles (or LED lights) and decorate to your liking.

 

 

Professional: Cake

 

Even if you’re a seasoned baker, who has taken on similar challenges, who wants to spend the days before their wedding making their cake? Baking and decorating a cake that’s big enough to feed all your guests can take a long time, and then you have to get it to the venue. If you’re determined to bake your own cake, you’ll have to be prepared for a lot of stress. Using a professional is much easier, and you can still customize it to your liking.

 

DIY: Party Favors

 

If you want to provide a sweet treat for your guests, doing it with your party favors is a much easier DIY option. It’s not difficult to put together a few little gifts, whether you choose candy or something else. You can turn inexpensive items into something a bit more special just by adding a couple of your own details. For example, a candle can be a lot more presentable just by putting it in a glass holder and tying a ribbon around it. You can get your favors ready long before the wedding, so it won’t stress you out.

Professional: Outfits

 

Obviously, you want everyone to look their best on your wedding day. Some people do decide to make their own wedding outfits, which you could do over an extended period before your wedding. If you feel confident about it, it might be something you choose to do. However, unless you’re an experienced sewer, it’s not a great idea. If you want custom outfits, you can have a dress made or shop Chookhare.com for custom suits. There are some experienced professionals who can give you want you want so you can look perfect for your wedding.

 

DIY: Accessories

 

One thing you might find a bit easier to DIY is your accessories. It’s not as difficult to sew some pocket squares or even make a necklace as it is to make an entire dress or suit. If you want to make your own wedding jewelry, one of the easiest ways to do it is to learn to thread beads and choose some that you like. Another great option is to take a workshop. You can even make your own wedding rings under the guidance of an expert.

Professional and DIY: Photography

 

A lot of people will warn you not to DIY your photography. While it’s true that you probably want to avoid only having DIY photography, it doesn’t mean you can’t mix it up a bit. If you’re trying to save some money, consider having a professional photographer for the ceremony and perhaps a few photos afterward. For the rest of the day, you might consider something else. Maybe you have a friend who’s learning photography or does it for a hobby who you can trust (check their work first). Or you might just want to rely on your guests to take some photos. You’d be surprised how many accidentally excellent photos your guests can take. And, let’s face it, do you really need hundreds of professional photos of everyone dancing and getting drunk?

 

You can make your wedding special by choosing to DIY some of the elements. Just be careful about what you DIY and what you entrust to a professional.

Goodbye 2010, Hello 2011

Liz: I’m telling you, this is my year. I feel like the show’s going to be great and I’m very positive that I’m going to meet someone else.
Jack: Women your age are more likely to be mauled at the zoo than get married. –30 Rock

Happy New Year! The lovely Michelle did a great post about the year in review and I loved it so much I thought I would do my own. 2010 was an incredible year for me, and it definitely deserves a review.

This past year I…

Planned our wedding.

Had fantastic parties thrown in my honor, like my Hen Party and my Bridal Shower.

Went on my first trip to Tahoe with Match, and can’t wait to go again soon.

Survived Match working graveyard shifts and being like two ships passing in the night. I got really good at playing psp solo games and finding other ways to occupy my evenings alone, like making my own escort cards and working on our guestbook scrapbook.

Set the date and then reset the date of our wedding and survived the aftermath of that mess.

Celebrated with Match as he got accepted into the Law Enforcement Training Academy.

Got married to the most amazing, dedicated, incredible man of my dreams.

Turned 27, which used to sound so old to me. Now it doesn’t seem so bad, especially with 30 looming out there in front of me.

Moved to a new town, and survived the first few weeks of Match’s academy, which was basically like bootcamp hell.

In 2011 we will…

Have three weddings to attend: Token Gay Couple, Chandler & Monica, and Geeky and her Fireman.

Match’s Academy Graduation and the start of his law enforcement career. I will attempt to not develop ulcers from worrying.

Our long overdue honeymoon. At this point I think I’ll settle for a three day weekend here in California. Just as long as we get to spend some quality time together. Maybe we’ll go camping!

We’ll celebrate our one year anniversary. I’ll try not to pout that I’m no longer a blushing bride and don’t get to have fabulous parties thrown for me. Well, except my birthday. 😉

Hopefully I’ll be on my way to a new career.

Our lives have changed so much since last January, and I’m so excited to see what this next year holds!

The Day I Married My Match, Part 2

Four years ago, I was just a guy who had a crush on a girl who had a boyfriend. And I had to do the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do, which was to wait. And don’t get me wrong, I flirted with her…I just had little moments with a girl who saw me as a friend. And a lot of people told me I was crazy to wait this long for a date with a girl who I worked with, but I think that even then I knew that I was waiting for my wife.-Jim, The Office

Let me start by saying, wow! I’m overwhelmed by your comments. I’m so happy to be able to share the most important day of my life with you all. You guys have been a part of it from the beginning! 🙂 Second, this is perhaps the longest post I’ve written yet, and I apologize. There were just so many amazing moments that I had to share with you!

Now that we’re past the tearfest, it’s time for the PARTY! Ok, I won’t lie, there are still some tear jerker moments. Like when Match’s Mom and my Mom gave their toasts. Then the first dance, and the father/daughter dance. But I’m getting ahead of myself.

Let’s start with our grand entrance back to at the reception room. We were at the golf course for the ceremony and they had a golf cart ready for us to drive back up to the reception. Typically the groom drives the cart. But you all know I’m not your typical girl. So of course I drove it.

The reception room has a deck so all of our guests were leaning over the railing cheering us on as we drove up.  Then the DJ had everyone go inside the reception room and wait for our grand entrance.

We walked in to the song, “Ain’t That a Kick in the Head” by Dean Martin.

I wish I could remember what Match whispered to me that I found so funny.

I was so overwhelmed by the amount of love that just emanated from the room. I just kept saying, “Oh wow, oh how beautiful!” I can’t even describe what an amazing feeling it is to be surrounded by all of your loved ones in the same room, all standing and clapping for you. It was truly incredible.

I was so touched that so many of my friends and family took off time from their jobs to make it to the wedding. There were hugs all around as we finally got to see all of our loved ones. Right after that our coordinator ushered us over to the buffet table for food. I loved our day of coordinator. She came with the venue and she did such a great job of keeping the day flowing. She made sure we ate too! We are one of the rare and lucky couples that actually got to eat on our wedding day. Match even got seconds!

I know it doesn’t look that appetizing in the picture but I swear it was so good. I wish I’d had a better appetite. I was just too excited to eat. Plus my friend who warned us about the sweetheart’s table was right-everyone stares at you while you eat!

Then it was time for the toasts. My mom was the first to make her speech, and I was blown away with how calm and collected she was. I told her afterwards she should speak in public more often! She talked about the first time I brought Match home to meet my parents. She said watching us cook in the kitchen together, she knew he was the one for me. Cooking and eating are a big deal in my family and the way we worked so effortlessly together, she knew we were made for each other.

MIL was next to give her toast. It started off shaky, because she definitely doesn’t like to speak in front of people or be the center of attention. She started by talking about how when you have a child you want the very best for them. You want to make sure that as they mature they make the right choices. She said that she has no doubt that Match made the right choice, and will continue to make the right choices because he has me by his side.

I was trying to keep it together in this picture. I started bawling when she finished with that line. We hugged and there wasn’t a dry eye in the house.

Match got up, a little begrudgingly, because like his mom, he hates being the center of attention. I think he did a great job. He thanked everyone for being a part of our special day. He said he couldn’t be happier and that he was absolutely the luckiest man in the world.

After the toasts it was time for our first dance. It was sweet, but I have to admit, I wish we’d picked a faster song. I love our song, Then by Brad Paisley, but it felt like it went on for a long time. I think that was just because everyone was starring at us and I’m a terrible slow dancer. I kept laughing and saying I was going to step on his shoes. He kept saying, “I lead, not you!” Hehehe.

The second dance was the father/daughter dance with my Pops. I couldn’t help it-I bawled like a baby. We chose the song, “You’re Gonna Miss This” by Trace Atkins.

After a few minutes, Match and his mom joined us on the dance floor, along with his Sis Travel Girl and her dad, and my Mom and my brother. By then I think a lot of our guests were crying along with us.

Then it was time to celebrate! Everyone wiped their eyes and got down to boogie on the dance floor.

Everyone mingled and danced and it felt like the two families and all the groups of friends had known each other for years.

Birthday Twin made it along with his long time girlfriend. They seemed to enjoy themselves, though frankly I didn’t spend much time with them. BT and I have grown so distant over the last two years. Still it was nice that he was there and they had a good time.

Best Friend was there-he made the trip all the way from San Diego. I was thrilled he could be there. After our years of friendship and our crazy, messy history it’s so nice to still call him my friend. He gave me a big hug and said, “You got your M.R.S!” He used to tease me in college that I was going to school for my M.R.S. He said he was so glad I found such a good guy and that I truly deserved to be this happy.

We had a fun moment on the deck where Best Friend, Brazil’s Hubby, The Enabler, and Old Married Hubby convinced me to smoke a cigar.

Before I knew it, it was time to cut the cake. The coordinator told me how we cut the cake represented how we work together as a team. This was hilarious because I couldn’t seem to cut the cake, and after a minute Match said, oh let me do it. So I guess that’s how we work. He does everything for me! 😉

Immediately after cake we had the bouquet and garter tosses. This was another classic moment-my cousin’s girlfriend didn’t just catch the bouquet, she swiped it. Then she whispered to me, “It better work!” It was adorable and I couldn’t be happier for her. Of course I felt bad for Tahoe Girl who really wanted to catch the bouquet. If you look closely, that’s her hand desperately reaching for it. She knows her and Tahoe Guy will get married. They’ve been together for 9 years! I think he’s just waiting for the right time since all of the couples in our group are getting married and he wants her to have her own moment. Hopefully next year he’ll propose!

The garter toss was a surprise as well. I’ve always been to weddings where the guys refuse to catch the garter. By the way don’t I look completely in pain in this picture? Like he’s biting my leg and not the garter? Hehehe. I was just really embarrassed.

Best Friend reached out and snatched the garter so fast I didn’t even see it happen!

The rest of the night is kind of a blur. There was tons of dancing and laughter. At one point my uncles tossed me in the air. I really wish someone had captured that on camera. At the end of the night the DJ got everyone to crowd around us while we danced together. It was another moment where my breath caught in my throat as I felt all of the love surrounding us. It was the perfect way to end a perfect day.

Post It Note Tuesday-Meet the Fockers

I guess the only thing to do now is meet his parents. I’m sure they’re decent people. I mean they gotta be if they named their son Gaylord Focker. -Jack Byrnes, Meet the Fockers

I’ll get to the rest of the Carmel story I promise. I just haven’t posted a PINT in a long time and I’ve missed it. I need to catch you up on current events in the short and sassy way that only a PINT can.

More Bridal Shower Goodness

George: And here we have the living area, where we does our living. And here we have the dining area, where we does our dining. And through this door is the kitchen area–
Louise: Where we does our kitchening. -All in the Family

Guest Blogger:

I don’t know if you guys loved DG’s bridal shower post as much as I did, but I thought it was adorable, and it looked like so much fun! I think Couple Wife did a wonderful job with so many creative ideas, such as the hand-painted wine glasses and the pin-up photo of Match was a hilarious touch.
While DG enjoys her vacation with Match, I thought that maybe you guys might like to see another bridal shower, just to get some more wedding-related eye candy. This past weekend, while on a family vacation in San Diego, I attended my future sister-in-law Tiffany’s bridal shower along with my mum, my aunt, and her bridesmaids and mum.
Look at all the amazing food that Tiffany’s mom, Linda, and her Maid of Honor Christine cooked! My favorite was the platter on the lower right—it was like Caprese salad, but instead of basil, it consisted of tomato, mozzarella, and avocado drizzled with balsamic. It was such a delicious and California-inspired variation on what is probably my favorite salad. Oh, and all those bottles of wine and champagne on the counter? Yeah…we went through all of
those. And then some.
The favors that Christine got for the girls who attended the party were these sterling silver wine stoppers, with little hearts on top. Aren’t they super cute? Tiffany loves wine so it was a nice nod to her and who couldn’t use them? Unless, of course, you love wine so much that you don’t have a problem with finishing off a bottle once you open it!
As you can see above, Christine had a great idea of framing “instructions” at all the little stations she had set up so that the guests could either participate in little games or leave something special for Tiffany. The stations that I didn’t get to take pictures of included a stack of super cute, pre-printed recipe cards (the shower was culinary themed) on which we all wrote recipes
for the soon-to-be newlyweds and placed them in a personalized cookbook that Christine had made up. Another really great idea of Christine’s was to have each guest write her name and address on an envelope to make mailing the thank you notes easier, but with a fun twist—each girl got to drop her name into a bag and then Christine would hold a drawing and give prizes to
whosever name was drawn! Isn’t that a fun, yet practical, idea? I really liked this special touch. Christine had Tiffany and my brother Brian’s engagement
picture framed and asked us to all sign the frame with a special message for them. It was a nice souvenir for Tiffany to keep, and I bet she’ll hang it up in their new house. I wrote that I was excited to be her sister. (Speaking of that, Tiffany’s brother and sister are named Scott and Michelle. I also have a brother Scott, and I am, of course, Michelle. Isn’t that bizarre?)
Tiffany had a blast opening her culinary-themed presents. I had gotten her a really nice silverware set intended to be used for holidays and special occasions. It came in a polished wood case with felt lining and everything. Unfortunately, after shipping it across the country, this is what it looked like:
Thankfully Tiffany is super sweet so she just laughed and hugged me anyways. She really loved the gift. (But of course, as soon as she moved on to the next one I snuck over and assembled them in their correct positions. I was so embarrassed at how awfully they looked!) Though a culinary-themed shower isn’t nearly as giggle-inducing as, say, a lingerie-themed one, there were still some silly moments and even sillier gifts. For example, one of Tiffany’s
bridesmaids, Katie, included this little number in her gift:
We all got a pretty good laugh out of the gift, especially when my aunt, who had had many glasses of champagne, suggested she could get double the use out of it by wearing it backwards! I think Tiffany definitely blushed after that one! I think every good shower needs silly, even embarrassing moments like that one—just like DG’s moment with Match’s butt in front of his mom. Our moms used to be giggly twentysomethings, too! Christine had a lot of cute games planned, such as Bridal Pictionary, but in the end the hours had
flown by and before we knew it, we were packing up the food and sending it home with the girls.
In a way, I felt sad that Christine didn’t get to do all the things she had undoubtedly put so much time into planning but I was also happy for Tiffany that her shower was so organic and relaxed that we didn’t need to rely on games for socialization. I suppose every shower has its own feel—though, personally, when my best friend throws mine for me in a few years I want games and giggles and blushing!
I hope you guys enjoyed taking a peek at my future sister-in-law’s bridal shower! She and DG are getting married quite close together and I wish both of them the best of luck and give them both my love!