Preparing to Be a LEO Wife

My husband Joe, he was a cop. He gave me a taser gun once for our anniversary. -Earnes, Law & Order

Last night Match and I decided to venture out of our comfortable Vietnamese place for date night and went exploring different places for happy hour. I looked up places on my blackberry bold and we ended up deciding on the Elephant Bar. It was the perfect place for cheap drinks and appetizers and lots of people watching. I offered to be DD so Match could unwind from his long week. Things have gotten more stressful in the academy since they are down to 7 WEEKS! I’m starting to get really nervous/excited for what is in store for us. Over dinner I confessed some of my fears to Match, and told him about this website I found. Here’s a little excerpt from a law enforcement wife blissinprogress. Warning: This post made me cry.

Being a LEO wife means putting your husband first, not out of a sense of duty or out of submission or control, but out of love and respect for all he faces each time he walks out the door. You will learn to understand that being frustrated is normal, but being resentful and angry is not an option. Things that are a huge deal to most wives such as holiday traditions, the perfect birthday party, the family photo shoot scheduled for weeks, a date night you spent a month looking forward to, the biggest football game of your son’s high school senior year, your baby’s first ballet recital….all of those things to a LEO wife are considered just something else she may end up dealing with alone. Frustrating? Absolutely. Disappointing? Always. Worth sending your LEO out into danger knowing you are furious with him? Never. A LEO wife will learn to hold her tongue, tell him she loves him, kiss him goodbye, and say a prayer that he comes home so she can yell at him later. We are human, we still want what we want, but we learn to see the bigger picture.

The thing is, when I met Match, I didn’t know what I was signing up for. This is all so new for both of us. I know we will have some tough times ahead, and I know there will be moments where our patience is pushed to the limit. I expressed some of these worries to Geeky, and she said said that it will seem really tough in the beginning, but soon enough it will feel like second nature. She said that I’m a strong woman and if anyone can handle this it’s me. It was a very sweet reminder. Match agreed and said that he knows we’re going to be just fine. Match and I have dealt with stressful times, we have dealt with the graveyard shift, with multiple jobs, with the ups and downs of life and we can do this. I am so grateful for this blog as my outlet, for those times I will want to whine to Match about my day, when in reality his will have been far far worse than my very worst day. I’m grateful for my friends here in the blogosphere and my new recruit wife friends. I have a feeling in the next few months I will really need to lean on you all.

Match the Housewife/Entreprenuer

Monica: Wow! I had no idea you had this much pride.
Chandler: That’s right! I do! And I’m your man. And I’m going to get us through this situation even if it means you working twice as hard. –Friends

I mentioned a few months ago that Match got a new job. We both thought this would be a big break towards a good career, but as soon as he started he realized it wasn’t for him. His boss was horribly disorganized, had shady business practices, and He started coming home stressed out and upset every night, and would snap at me and just wasn’t himself. So after giving the job two months, and after consulting with me, we agreed that he would be better off focusing on his internship at the firehouse, and starting our cleaning company up again.

Friday was his first day of self employment/housewife duty, and I came home to a clean house, bathed dog (neither of which I asked for!) and these:
thank you flowers
He said the flowers were a thank you for believing in him, and for supporting his decision to quit his job. He said he was sorry for how stressed out he got while working there, and he knew how much it affected me. He said he appreciated that I stood by him and knew that even though he was quitting, he would find a way to contribute and make ends meet.  Wasn’t that sweet? Continue reading Match the Housewife/Entreprenuer

A Well Deserved Night Out

Karen: Gosh, I don’t think I’ve ever been stressed out. I mean, why would I be? I got  practically no responsibilities, my job’s a breeze, and I got a killer rack! Good morning!
Grace: Oh, when you smile, you have the cutest little wrinkle right there!
Karen: Where?! (runs to mirror)
Grace: Feel that? That’s stress.                                                                                                        –Will & Grace

Tonight Match and I are going on a date in San Francisco. I’ve been dying to take him to this great place that a close friend of mine from college (Bambino) owns and tonight we’re finally going. I was planning on waiting until our 6 month anniversary but sadly my friend’s restaurant is closing down. 🙁 I’m sad my friend’s place is closing, but I’m excited about getting to visit with him and have him meet Match tonight.

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Crazy Halloween Night Out

Barney: You know what I love about Halloween? It’s the one night of the year chicks use to unleash their inner ho-bag. A girl dresses up like a witch, she’s a slutty witch. If she’s a cat, she’s a slutty cat. If she’s a nurse-
Lily: Wow, we get it.
Barney: She’s a slutty nurse. –How I Met Your Mother

When I got home last night I was so excited! Halloween was finally here, and for the first time in my life I had a date. I was so ready to go out! I was just hoping that the outdoor lighting in downtown wasn’t too bright, because my lovely legs are still covered in rash marks. Unfortunately, my rash was the least of our worries.

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