Preparing to Be a LEO Wife

My husband Joe, he was a cop. He gave me a taser gun once for our anniversary. -Earnes, Law & Order

Last night Match and I decided to venture out of our comfortable Vietnamese place for date night and went exploring different places for happy hour. I looked up places on my blackberry bold and we ended up deciding on the Elephant Bar. It was the perfect place for cheap drinks and appetizers and lots of people watching. I offered to be DD so Match could unwind from his long week. Things have gotten more stressful in the academy since they are down to 7 WEEKS! I’m starting to get really nervous/excited for what is in store for us. Over dinner I confessed some of my fears to Match, and told him about this website I found. Here’s a little excerpt from a law enforcement wife blissinprogress. Warning: This post made me cry.

Being a LEO wife means putting your husband first, not out of a sense of duty or out of submission or control, but out of love and respect for all he faces each time he walks out the door. You will learn to understand that being frustrated is normal, but being resentful and angry is not an option. Things that are a huge deal to most wives such as holiday traditions, the perfect birthday party, the family photo shoot scheduled for weeks, a date night you spent a month looking forward to, the biggest football game of your son’s high school senior year, your baby’s first ballet recital….all of those things to a LEO wife are considered just something else she may end up dealing with alone. Frustrating? Absolutely. Disappointing? Always. Worth sending your LEO out into danger knowing you are furious with him? Never. A LEO wife will learn to hold her tongue, tell him she loves him, kiss him goodbye, and say a prayer that he comes home so she can yell at him later. We are human, we still want what we want, but we learn to see the bigger picture.

The thing is, when I met Match, I didn’t know what I was signing up for. This is all so new for both of us. I know we will have some tough times ahead, and I know there will be moments where our patience is pushed to the limit. I expressed some of these worries to Geeky, and she said said that it will seem really tough in the beginning, but soon enough it will feel like second nature. She said that I’m a strong woman and if anyone can handle this it’s me. It was a very sweet reminder. Match agreed and said that he knows we’re going to be just fine. Match and I have dealt with stressful times, we have dealt with the graveyard shift, with multiple jobs, with the ups and downs of life and we can do this. I am so grateful for this blog as my outlet, for those times I will want to whine to Match about my day, when in reality his will have been far far worse than my very worst day. I’m grateful for my friends here in the blogosphere and my new recruit wife friends. I have a feeling in the next few months I will really need to lean on you all.