Long Overdue Double Date

Ted: [to Marshall and Lily] Are you kidding me?!? All you ever talk about is having kids, and now you have one little freakout, you want to get a dog instead? No, unacceptable! You’re gonna turn around, go home, get naked, lie together as man and wife until Lily is great with child! Right now. [couple still look at him] I’M SERIOUS, GO GO GO! –How I Met Your Mother

Last night Match and I got together with Couple Friends for a long overdue double date. We joked that the last time the four of us got together was a baby and a half ago! We got together at Old Chicago Pizza and ate our weight in pizza, drank beers and caught up.

Couple Hubby told us both a really sweet example of the decision to have a baby. He said it was like when you have to give a speech in class. You hate to go first, but at the same time, you get it done with, and then you can sit back and relax. If you want kids at all, you know that you’re going to have them eventually, so you might as well just do it. You’re never going to be ready, but once you get up there and give that speech, you will feel relieved. He said it’s not that you’ll be relieved when the kids grow up, but some stages of raising babies is tough, and when you get through that stage, you get that sense of relief and accomplishment.

I loved his little talk and I think Match did too. Couple Wife chimed in that no one is ever ready and that if you wait until you are, you will never have kids.

After dinner we had a few drinks

then headed to Couple Wife’s parents house to visit Couple babies. They were so stinking cute! They warned us that their kids would make my ovaries hurt and they would affect male reproductive parts the same way. I started cracking up and said, “Umm I don’t think you can say the same about a guy and not have it sound really perverted. Oh man, those kids make my sperm ache.” That is just plain awkward! 🙂

We played with the kids and couldn’t get over how big Couple Toddler has gotten. He is 2 years old already! When Match and I first got together, Couple Wife was pregnant. I was literally there from the beginning. When he toddled over and cuddled up on my lap, I won’t lie, my heart strings were pulled. He is such a cutie pie.

Little Couple Baby Girl snuggled with me too, and kept nuzzling my head which was downright adorable.

I’m so glad that even though we live further away, we still have our Couple Friends. I can already see us one day with our own babies, all of us getting together and watching them play. Someday…

Good Couple Friends are Hard to Find

Ted: Come on they just got excited, they’ve been looking for couple best friends forever. Barney:This is a website Marshal already made about last night. It’s called itwasthebestnightever.com –How I Met Your Mother

Well it happened. Outdoor Couple broke up. I think Outdoor Girl realized how hard it was to put the idea of breaking up out there, and then just sit on it. She called me last night crying, and told me she’d finally done it. I felt so sorry for her, because it was an incredibly hard decision. Match was disappointed to hear about the breakup, because we both love them as a couple. We seem to be cursed when it comes to finding best couple friends! First Drama and B (but that match needed to end, and badly) and now Outdoor Couple. Continue reading Good Couple Friends are Hard to Find

A Scheduled Breakup

Ted: Seriously, where do you see yourself in five years?
Robin: Where do you see yourself?
Ted: Honestly, in five years, I’d probably want to be married.
Robin: And I’d probably want to be in Argentina.
Ted: Argentina?
Robin: Or Tokyo, or Paris. Look Ted, I don’t know where I’m gonna be in five years. I don’t wanna know, I want my life to be an adventure.
Ted: We have an expiration date, don’t we? –How I met Your Mother

A few weekends ago Outdoor Girl and I met up for coffee and to go shopping, and ended up having an all out girl talk/sharefest. I didn’t realize she needed a shoulder to cry on, but I was so glad I was able to be there for her. We’re still new friends, but after our talk I felt a lot closer to her. When I got to the coffee house, I could tell right away she needed to talk. We sat down and immediately her eyes filled with tears as she said, “I think I have to end things with Outdoor Guy”.

She told me how when she first met him, she wasn’t looking for anything serious. She knew she wanted to go to grad school somewhere outside of California, and she didn’t want to tie herself to this place. What was supposed to be a casual thing has now lasted for over two years, and developed into a deeper connection. Before she was with OG, she dated a really controlling and emotionally abusive man who was a lot older than her. He sounds a lot like Crazy Guy, so I could relate.

After finally getting the courage to break it off with her evil ex, she didn’t date for a long time. When she met Outdoor Guy she still had a lot of emotional baggage about dating. Her crazy ex was her only other boyfriend, and so OG was really a rebound that has lasted for two years. She told me she loves him, but looks at him as a companion rather than a boyfriend. She also opened up to me about her trouble with wanting to have sex. She said that her and OG only have sex about two or three times a month, and that she never wants to do it. She definitely is in need of a good counselor to talk to and work out her issues with. I personally think it’s a side effect from the fact that she knows ultimately he’s not right for her.

I feel so sad for her, because I know a decision like that is so hard to make. When there is nothing wrong with the guy, and they’ve done everything right, but that spark is just missing. It’s a really tough thing to do, and usually you end up losing that friendship because they aren’t missing the spark from the relationship, you are.

After our talk, she ended up having a long conversation with Outdoor Guy. They discussed how she’ll be leaving eventually, so they sort of “scheduled” a breakup. They know it’s going to end eventually, but neither of them is ready to completely let go. To me, that’s almost worst than just ripping off the bandaid. But I can understand their hesitation. Plus on a completely selfish side, Match and I adore them as couple friends and we are so bummed at the idea of them not being together! I swear, we’re cursed when it comes to finding other couples to hang out with. Drama Chick and B broke up and now Outdoor Couple! At least we still have the original Couple Friends to hang with.

Has anyone out there ever been in Outdoor Girl’s shoes? Did you ever schedule a breakup?