Rainbows

When a rainbow appears, it doesn’t mean the storm never happened or that the family is not still dealing with its aftermath. What it means is that something beautiful and full of light has appeared in the midst of the darkness and clouds. Storm clouds may still hover but the rainbow provides a counterbalance of color, energy and hope. -Unknown

It was September 24th, and I’d just woken up from a wonderful dream. All I remember was seeing Roo, and she was happy, and I felt such peace. It was like she was giving me her blessing. Not long after waking up, I was able to write this note to Match:

That positive is the darkest I’ve ever gotten, and guys, I’ve been pregnant 3 times in NINE months, so I know these things. This wasn’t the faint barely line of my chemical pregnancy. It wasn’t the thin but distinctive line from Roo. This was positive before the control line, as if to say, yes, this baby is STICKING.

When I woke up Match with the post it note, after his eyes adjusted, and I verified what he was reading with the test, he held me and said, “This is going to be different. I can feel it.”

We experienced two blissful weeks where I was able to continue working out, and I showed no signs of discomfort or issues, except for the typical first trimester sleepies.

Then, one day while doing yardwork, at about 6 weeks 5 days, I went potty and gasped. There was blood everywhere. We rushed to the ER, where we ended up in the exact same room I was in when I first went to the ER with Roo.
When we got the ultrasound, the tech wasn’t allowed to tell me anything good or bad. I pleaded with him, “we haven’t had a chance to get the ultrasound, can you just tell me if there’s a heartbeat?”

He just turned the monitor to me, and turned on the doppler. We saw the flicker, and that wonderful thump thump thump.

Then we had to wait another 20 minutes to hear from the doctor. He checked my cervix and it’s closed, good news. But the bad news is I have what’s called a subchorionic hemorrhage. It’s basically the gathering of blood between the membranes of the placenta and the uterus. There’s no known case, and there is no treatment. The blood clot can bleed out, or it can irritate the cervix and cause a placental tear. The good news is the hemorrhage is very small. So I was sent home, with instructions for pelvic rest and to avoid any strenuous activities.

Once I got home, I passed a huge, quarter sized clot, which scared me to death. But after reading about SCH, I found that it’s really common to pass clots. It is just the hemorrhage working its way out of my body.

Monday the 15th we went to the doctor, where she did another ultrasound, and we saw that the baby was growing right along schedule. She prescribed progesterone and said to continue to take it easy until further notice. The bleeding has all but stopped, and she reassured us that it was a very small SCH and will mostly resolve on its own.

The other crazy thing was that yolk sac in this really bad ultrasound picture makes it look like there are two babies. But the doc assured me that there is only one.

As of today, I’m 7 weeks, 3 days with our little Piglet. Happily growing in my belly.

Baby Roo and foot rubs

Marshall: Listen, I’ve been thinking a lot about what you said yesterday on how we all are going to die.
Cootes: Oh, I’m not gonna die. I’ve bought a mine shaft in Colorado. I spent the past six months stocking it with canned goods, assault rifles, and all five seasons of Friday Night Lights.
Marshall: First of all, you can skip season 2. Second of all, after our talk, I came pretty close to giving up myself, but then I went to the doctor with my wife, and I saw this. [shows Garrison ultrasound footage on laptop]Cootes: Boy or girl?
Marshall: I don’t know, but I know I sure as hell can’t give up now. So if you’re looking for someone to hold one end of the limbo stick, you got the wrong guy. You know why?
Cootes: ‘Cause you’re three feet taller than everyone in this office?
Marshall: No because if I’m going to work here, then first thing tomorrow, I’m going down to Gruber Pharmaceuticals and rejecting our offer – even if I have to do it myself. –How I Met Your Mother

Last Monday Match said, “I want to do something for you.” So he had me sit down in his comfy man chair, pulled up a stool, and proceeded to give me the most amazing foot rub. A girl could get used to this!

Then that Tuesday we got to see our little Roo. To say that Roo put on a show for us would be putting it mildly. It started off with Roo being in a full on head stand, then a little bit of wiggling, and some feet fluttering. Then Roo do some quick jabs, just like a little boxer. We were cracking up from our little baby’s antics. After awhile Roo started to do spins and kicking legs wildly, followed by fist pumps. It was as if the little one was rocking out to the beat. Match grabbed my hand and we both just sat there mesmerized. The ultrasound was over far too quickly for us, but the tech did give us pictures as a keep sake. I just wish we could have taken video, because it truly was amazing.

Unfortunately the tech refused to even venture a guess at the gender. I knew it was super early, but Walking Couple got our hopes up when they said the tech told them at their 12 week NT scan. The tech did say that I’m 13 weeks, 4 days, just as I thought I was, and contrary to what the jerkface OB thought I was. Yay!

This past Wednesday I had my doctor’s visit with my new OBGYN, and she is wonderful! I’m so happy I switched doctors. She also took me off pelvic rest and said everything looks great. HURRAY! Just in time for vacation, which we are headed for today! We also made our appointment for our anatomy scan next month. We officially find out if Roo is a little boy or a little girl on April 20th. I am so excited!!

Couple Wife’s Birthday and Carb Overload

Kids!? No! Don’t have kids! The rule is no kids until you’re at least 45. Don’t you EVER read my blog? It’s gotten a lot better. -Barney, How I Met Your Mother

Last night Match and I had Couple Family (had to change it with baby #2 on the way!) over for a belated birthday dinner for Couple Wife. She just turned 25 on Sunday. It’s funny how often I forget that she’s younger than me. I think it’s because she’s already a mom and has baby #2 on the way, plus has a job she loves and they own a house. Sometimes it makes me feel like I’m still 18 by comparison!

I haven’t made dinner for guests in a long time so I decided to bust out the comfort food recipe. I made Spaghetti Pie which is chock full of carbs and fat but oh so tasty. While I was at work I also designed a fancy menu to make the dinner seem more elegant than it actually was. Here’s the menu, you’ve gotta click on it to actually read anything:

And here’s how it looked on the table. Note that I got to use our brand new appetizer platters from my bridal shower. Yay! PS that olive tapenade totally looks like poop but I swear it was delicious. 😉

After dinner I also got to use my new cupcake tree. Don’t cupcakes just look more delicious on a tree?

We ate ourselves into food comas but somehow managed to have the energy to visit. CW told us about their 5 year plan (I love that they have a 5 year plan!) and how they eventually want to move further north to a smaller town that’s more family friendly. I’m sad because I know when we move for Match’s academy we’ll be even further away from them. But Match’s and Couple Wife’s parents live in the same area, so we’ll still get to see each other.

It was so nice visiting with Couple Family and getting to see Couple Baby. He’s grown so much! I can’t believe he’s almost a year and a half already. I love watching Match play with him too, it melts my heart.

I’m so happy I married a man who doesn’t have this old fashioned idea of being a dad. He doesn’t picture himself passing out the arturo fuente cigars in the waiting room and then being handed a baby to show off. He is definitely a hand’s on guy who will be an amazing father. It’s nice having Couple Hubby around as a great example too. CH is awesome with Couple Baby. He’ll jump up and play with him when he gets fussy, or just because. You can really see the love he has for his son. It’s too precious.

Couple Wife is getting closer and closer to her due date. Did I mention she’s having a little girl to complete their family? I hope we follow in those footsteps. I want a boy first and a girl second, as long as we’re dreaming.

CW asked the question that has been asked of us ever since we got engagd, “So when are you two planning on having kids?” We both sort of laughed and just shrugged and said something vague about waiting for Match to have his career established. The goal is before 30, but we’re not in a huge rush. I want to enjoy some newlywed time with my future husband. As much as I adore Couple Baby, he wore us out during that brief 2 hour visit. I don’t think I’m ready for full time parenthood just yet. Towards the end of the night I picked him up and he started babbling, “mommy mommy mommy” because he calls all girls that.  Even though I’m not ready to be one, I can’t say it didn’t give me a warm little flutter in my tummy. 🙂

People That Get Us

Let’s be honest. Sometimes there is nothing harder in life than being happy for somebody else. -Carrie, Sex and the City

I don’t know if anyone else has experienced this setback while in a relationship-your friends. When you have friends that aren’t happy in love, it is extremely hard to hang out, when you’re on cloud 9. I’ve been going through a rough patch with one of my good girlfriends, Reality Check. She’s been very unhappy in love, and it seems like there is constant drama surrounding her. It used to be ok-we’d go out, bitch about men, and I’d be in the same boat as her. Still even on those occasions, she’d be rude to new guys that would approach, and she’s always been the Miranda of my friends: fairly bitter and most of the time hates men. While I get that she’s unhappy, does that really prevent her from being happy for me? I couldn’t even tell her about Match wanting me to get my ring size, or how eager he is to get engaged. When I told her about it, she made a face and immediately started whining about her latest relationship disaster.

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