Role-Reversal: Being The One To Pop The Question

Even in the modern world, it’s very uncommon for people to break with tradition when it comes to their wedding proposal. Despite other rituals being dropped in favor of new ideas, this area is one which a lot of people struggle to change, simply relying on their boyfriend to pop the question by themselves. Of course, though, it doesn’t have to be this way. Instead, you just need to find a way to get the job done yourself, and this post is here to help you out.

But, first, it’s time to think about tradition for just a little bit longer. A lot of women are hesitant about asking their other half to be their husband simply because it’s not how people have done it in the past. In reality, though, tradition is just a social construct, and your happiness is far more important. In a lot of cases, people are scared to ask their girlfriend for their hand in marriage, worried they will burst the bubble.

You don’t need tradition to guide you. If you want something, instead of waiting for the right circumstances, you should just take it. There are a few things left to consider when it comes to a proposal, and it’s important that you work hard to get them right. Below, you can find some examples of these to make it easier for you. Along with this, though, it could be worth doing some research on blogs and forums to make sure you’re not missing anything out.


  • The Location


The very first thing to think about is the location you’re going to use for your proposal. This will be somewhere you will remember for the rest of your life, impacting your memory of your early relationship massively. For this reason, it should be somewhere you both love, while also being somewhere new to you. The right location can make it much easier for you both to deal with the proposal. For instance, if you prefer to be private and don’t like to do things in front of people, finding somewhere off the beaten track could be perfect.


  • The Activity


Along with the location, it’s a good idea to give you and your partner something to do before your proposal. This will enhance the day even further, giving you more memories, and putting you both into a very good place for some fun. Looking for cool gifts for guys will help you to find options like experience days. With a couple of tickets, you could find you and your partner enjoying a once in a lifetime trip. There are very few better ways to provide an exciting backdrop to your big question.


  • The Feel


A lot of proposals throughout history have been ruined by people choosing an inopportune moment for their proposal. Before you take this bold step, you need to make sure the feel is right. The location and activity are all part of this, but you also have to do some assessment, making sure the time is right. After an argument, for example, is a very bad time to propose. Of course, though, you’ll know when it’s time.


  • The Moment Itself


Finally, it’s time to think about the moment itself. A lot of people spend hours and hours mentally rehearsing this part of their proposal, going over what they plan to say in their head. Of course, though, over preparing for something like this will only make it scarier. Instead, to avoid this, you should simply go with the flow. Make plans to ask the question, but don’t be specific with your timing or wording. If you act upon impulse, you will not only surprise your loved one but also yourself, making it all the more memorable.

A lot of people find it almost impossible to escape the norm when it comes to their proposal. But, like mentioned above, it doesn’t have to be this way. In the modern world, more and more people are changing the way they live. From the small aspects, like the devices they use, to the big things, like the people they see, the world is becoming a very diverse place. To have your part in this, doing something different for your marriage is a great idea.

Hopefully, this post will inspire you to stop waiting for your boyfriend to pop the question. You could be on hold for years while he works up the courage to do this for you both, and this time will be wasted. Instead, take charge, ask the question, and get what you want.

Moving House: 7 Things You Wish You’d Known Earlier

When you decide to leave your home for greener pastures and pack your boxes, there are plenty of things to take care of in a short period of time. For many people, moving is the most stressful event in their lives. If you move with a family, you will have to organize everyone’s belongings, schools, work, and household bills, as well as the financial side of moving. Below you will find a list of things you must know before you embark on the journey of moving house.

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  1. You Can Ask for Time Off

It is stressful enough to move house, but if you have to work full time during this transition period, you are likely to forget something. You should ask your employer for a vacation and schedule your move for the time when you get time off. This way, you can focus on one thing at a time.

  1. You Must Check Out the New Neighborhood Daytime and Nighttime

Every neighborhood looks great in the daytime when people are not home. You should visit multiple times in the day and at night to see if the area is as quiet as you think. Many people fall in love with a house and make an offer without checking out the neighborhood properly.

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  1. You Need to Visit Local Schools

If you move with kids, it is best to visit the local school before applying for a place. It will give your children a peace of mind and help you understand the new system they need to get used to.

  1. You Should Compare Prices Before You Arrange Services

Most people want to get their move out of the way as fast as possible. You should search for Storage Near Me and removal prices online before you make a final decision, and consider convenience, price, and availability.

  1. Not All Homes Have the Same Speed Internet

Before you decide to move in an area, you have to check internet speed and TV service. If you want to watch Netflix or work remotely from home, moving to a remote coastal area might not be a good idea. Make sure you check which services you can get.

  1. Moving on a Friday is a Bad Idea

If you would like to save money on your final removal bill, you should not move on a Friday, as it is the busiest day and you will end up paying more than necessary. Try to take time off work and stay flexible to save money.

  1. It Is Recommended to Change Locks

While the previous owners might look like decent people, you don’t know everything about them. Make sure that you change the locks as soon as you move in. The previous owners might have given a key to a friend, or lost one on the street.


Many people forget important steps to take to make their house move go smoothly. Don’t forget about the above tips and you will have everything covered.

It’s A Nice Day For A… Winter Wedding

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The fall is upon us and those of us with kids are nestling in that interstice between getting over the crazy back to school rush and contemplating pumpkin carving designs. The grey drizzly weather can lead us to feel mournful and while many of us have Thanksgiving and Christmas to look forward to there are some for whom this is a sad time of year. For the recently betrothed however, this time could be the lead up to something very special and exciting indeed. While many spend countless hours daydreaming about their perfect wedding, few are aware of the myriad benefits of getting married in the winter. Winter is, after all as magical a time as summer in different ways, and while the sun may not be on your side, there are plenty of other benefits.


Amazing photo ops


Snow and ice are always magical to behold through the lens of a talented photographer and enlisting the skills of a capple shutterbug like Vittore Buzzi photographer can lend your wedding album an ethereal Disney-esque magic that summer weddings frankly struggle to touch. When dazzled friends look through your wedding album, they won’t remember the cold, they’ll just remember the beauty of the occasion.


It’s less stressful


While there’s obviously an element of stress to wedding planning, those who get married in warmer months tend to experience it more intensely. Weddings that take place in the summer, fall or spring, are far more dependent on fair weather whereas winter weddings take unhelpful weather as a given and plan around the weather accordingly, making them far less febrile in the lead up to their big day.


Better venue availability and rates


Great venues tend to fill up really quickly in the fairer months, leading couples to make difficult compromises on their preferred wedding day or even postponing their big day for another year. Venues and vendors tend to pack weddings together and jack up the price in the hopes of making enough of a profit to see them through the slower months. Conversely, those who get married in winter not only have a better choice of dates, but also enjoy a more personal and less rushed service as well as attractively reduced seasonal rates.


Travel and accommodation tend to be cheaper


When you have friends and family coming from far and wide to be a part of your big day, it’s a huge ask to expect them to pay the seasonally jacked-up prices that beset the summer when the kids are out of school and summer vacations begin in earnest. Winter weddings are much more manageable for guests because they generally mean cheaper flights and hotel accommodation so there’s much less chance of someone you dearly love not being able to make it because of exorbitant travel costs.


Less chance of wedding fatigue


Come on, admit it. At least once you’ve rolled your eyes at the proliferation of weddings that occur every ‘wedding season’. Attending one wedding after another can not only be exhausting, it can be a serious strain on your finances. Resultantly, each wedding has a little less sparkle than the one before. This is not a problem for those who opt for a winter wedding.


Winter Warmers: Indoor Hobbies To Try This Winter


With fall now in full flow, it feels like the whisper of winter is beginning to be felt on the wind. Before you know it, we’ll be plunged into a world of (what feels like) eternal darkness, not wanting to venture outside of the house for fear of chilling ourselves to the bone. While winter does have its upsides — Christmas is the main, glittering high point of the season — for the most part, it’s dark, miserable, and downright boring.


Yes, boring– admittedly not a word you have likely associated with winter before, but it’s true. Winter is dull. If you’re bored in summer, you can head outside, walk among nature, go shopping; you have the entire world spread out before you in terms of options. However, with winter, the desire to curl up in the warm is so intense that you feel you’re stuck in the house for weeks on end– so yes, winter can be incredibly boring.


If you want to try and ensure that you enjoy this winter as much as possible, here are five hobbies you can do take up; don’t worry, you won’t have to step outside for any of them!


1) Paper Crafting


Crafting is a great hobby for the colder seasons of fall and winter, because it literally demands that you stay indoors, where it’s warm, so you can focus on what you’re doing. Why not try making Christmas cards for your friends and family this year? Or perhaps even make your own Christmas ornaments; you can give them a personal touch that means there’s an extra smile on your season of goodwill this year.

2) Making Clothes


People making their own clothes is a hobby that has largely fallen out of popularity in recent years, as access to clothing — and the affordability of it — has become more common. Nevertheless, there is nothing quite like wearing an item of clothing that you have made for yourself. It can be tailored exactly to your measurements and shape, guaranteeing a good fit, and you can pick the materials and patterns that you want to use. If you’re a complete newbie to using a sewing machine, don’t worry; there’s a handy guide to finding a good sewing machine for beginners here, and there’s plenty of YouTube videos that can teach you how to use it.


3) Candle Making



Candles are a staple if you want to create that cozy feeling of being indoors in winter, but why not make this year a little different by making the candles for yourself? This is easier than it sounds, and it won’t cost you a fortune either. There are plenty of guides online that can help to get you started, from simple beeswax candles to more elaborate fragranced candles made from paraffin. It’s a great hobby to share with your kids too, and you never know, you might even discover a special skill and be able to sell your wares outside of the home!


Winter doesn’t have to be a dark and miserable experience. Make the most of the time you’ll spend indoors by introducing a brand new hobby that you will love right through to spring.

Santa Rosa Fires

Some of my long-time readers (are any of you still out there?) may know that I used to live in Northern California. My dad’s side of the family is from there,  I was born there, and it’s where I spent my college years and beyond. Match was born and raised there, and the majority of his family still lives there and the surrounding area. It’s where Match and I met, and where we fell in love. It’s where we were married.

And now it’s being ravaged by fires. The fires are so heartbreaking, and so close to our former and home away from home. Match’s aunt and uncle lost their beautiful home on the hill. The home where we had so many family gatherings and played bocce. It was a home his uncle helped to design, and they had put their heart and soul into it, as we all do with our homes.

Match’s parents were lucky enough to keep their home, losing only their shed, but their entire neighborhood was destroyed, except one other home behind theirs. It was far too close for comfort, and we were so grateful they were visiting all of us up here in Oregon when the fires started.

My great aunt and uncle also lost their home of over 20+ years. It is so devastating for them, as I know they didn’t have much. Thank god they were safe.

And then there is Couple Family. Some of my readers may remember Couple Wife, my dear friend who helped me so many times, and has always been a wonderful friend. Her husband grew up with Match and they’ve known each other their whole lives. They lost their home and everything in it, including their beloved family kitten. They barely made it out before the fire struck their home, and my heart aches for their loss. This is all that is left of their home.

All of our family and friends are alive, and for that we are so, so grateful. I know everything else is just things, or just a place, but so many memories were made there. I’m praying the fires stop soon, and our loved ones can start the healing process. All of our displaced family and friends who had to evacuate will get to go home, and the ones who lost so much can start to rebuild. It will take years before things will look remotely the same.

Things like this make you hold your family closer, and be grateful for all that we have. It has made us come up with a plan in case of emergency, and a list of the irreplaceable things we would take with us if we had minutes to get out.

Thinking of all those affected by this fire. We love you, Sonoma County, and I hope this nightmare is over soon.