‘Stop being so testosteroney!’
‘Which, by the way, is the real San Francisco treat.’
– Phoebe and Chandler, Friends
At a game night with friends last night, I met The French Guy. He was sweet, kind of cute, and smart. He flirted like crazy with me, and I thought it would be fun to go out with him. I was determined not to make the same mistakes I always do with guys. I find a great new guy, and I fixate. I don’t see what else is out there and date around, keep things casual. That way I’m not devastated if the guy doesn’t want more.
“We were having one of those great first dates you can only have when it’s not an actual date.”-Carrie, Sex and the City
So after the Hooded Sweatshirt Guy debacle, I was kind of put off on going on a date. So Friday night I went out with a girlfriend for drinks and tried to put dating out of my head. We went to a local Irish pub and ran smack dab into Hooded Sweatshirt Guy. What are the odds?? My girlfriend ended up ditching out early, and I was still buzzed and it was only 10, so I stayed. I figured if anything I could have fairly ok conversation with HS for awhile before heading home, bummed and dejected.
Phoebe: We can be guys. Come on, let us be guys. Chandler: You don’t want to be guys, you’d be all hairy and you wouldn’t live as long. –Friends
I’ve been hanging out more and more with The Friend Zone and Birthday Twin. I love just kicking back the three of us. It’s nice to be one of the guys again, I haven’t had that in a long while. It’s also nice because having the trio keeps The Friend Zone from feeling like something is going to happen with us. The only problem I’m having is I can sense the chemistry between myself and Birthday Twin.
You waited too long and now you’re in “The Friend Zone”.-Joey, Friends
The same weekend I met The One Night Stand I met another guy. We’ll call him The Friend Zone Guy. He was so great. We had a blast laughing and talking that night, and I gave him my number. I made it clear in my mind at least, that I wanted to just be friends. I thought it was obvious considering I was kissing his friend (One Night Stand Guy) on the couch right in front of him. Usually when a girl is making out with another, chances are she’s just not that into you.
“Barney: Ted, you should be happy Robin has a secret. The more you learn about a person, the better chance you have of hitting the fatal “Ohhh…” moment. Marshall: The “Ohhh…” moment? Barney: Yeah. That moment when you find out that one detail about a person that is going to be a deal-breaker.”-How I Met Your Mother
So the one thing that came out of my experience with The One Night Stand was realizing I’m ready to date again. I am ready to try things out, and see how they work. The new plan though is to not immediately fall into the couple category. Instead of going on one date with one guy and saying, ok now we’re a couple, why not meet a few potentials, try them out, and then make a decision after getting to know them? Get to know someone first? A novel idea!