Phoebe: We can be guys. Come on, let us be guys. Chandler: You don’t want to be guys, you’d be all hairy and you wouldn’t live as long. –Friends
I’ve been hanging out more and more with The Friend Zone and Birthday Twin. I love just kicking back the three of us. It’s nice to be one of the guys again, I haven’t had that in a long while. It’s also nice because having the trio keeps The Friend Zone from feeling like something is going to happen with us. The only problem I’m having is I can sense the chemistry between myself and Birthday Twin.
You waited too long and now you’re in “The Friend Zone”.-Joey, Friends
The same weekend I met The One Night Stand I met another guy. We’ll call him The Friend Zone Guy. He was so great. We had a blast laughing and talking that night, and I gave him my number. I made it clear in my mind at least, that I wanted to just be friends. I thought it was obvious considering I was kissing his friend (One Night Stand Guy) on the couch right in front of him. Usually when a girl is making out with another, chances are she’s just not that into you.
“Barney: Ted, you should be happy Robin has a secret. The more you learn about a person, the better chance you have of hitting the fatal “Ohhh…” moment. Marshall: The “Ohhh…” moment? Barney: Yeah. That moment when you find out that one detail about a person that is going to be a deal-breaker.”-How I Met Your Mother
So the one thing that came out of my experience with The One Night Stand was realizing I’m ready to date again. I am ready to try things out, and see how they work. The new plan though is to not immediately fall into the couple category. Instead of going on one date with one guy and saying, ok now we’re a couple, why not meet a few potentials, try them out, and then make a decision after getting to know them? Get to know someone first? A novel idea!
“Every once in awhile a girl just has to indulge herself.” -Carrie, Sex and the City
As part of my promise to embrace my single status, I have been trying to really live life to the fullest. Last night I went to a party, the first time I’d been out and let my hair down in quite sometime. I visited my friend a few towns away who I like to call The Enabler. He is sort of like my bad conscious, standing on my shoulder in his little red suit saying, do it, just do it, it’ll be FUN. He took me to a house party, something I haven’t been to since college it seems. This was a typical college party; messy house, bad beer, and full of drunk guys. I felt kind of like a kid in a candy store. There were adorable boys everywhere! I felt like the old lady, even though in reality I was just a few years older than they were. Though let’s be honest, a woman who is 1 or 2 years older than a guy, might as well be 5 or 6 years older maturity wise.
The night started out innocently enough when I suggested we all play a little game called “I Never.” For those of you who don’t know what it is, it’s a game where if you’ve done the thing that someone says “I’ve never…” for instance, gone skydiving, then the people who have must take a drink. This game can get playful and it should never be played with committed loving couples. You just may learn something you didn’t want to know about your beloved. 😉
“Maybe some women aren’t meant to be tamed. Maybe they just need to run free till they find someone just as wild to run with them. “-Carrie, Sex and the City
This year I have turned over a new leaf. I am single, but instead of moping and feeling bad about it, I’ve embraced it joyfully. There will never be a time like this in my life again. I’m young, in shape or at least trying to be, no children, and the world ahead of me.
Women all around me consider singleness to be some sort of illness you’re inflicted with, and the only cure is a relationship. I say bugger to that! I say single women should look at all the freedom that comes with being on your own, and raise our purses and say HELL YES! Let’s make the most of this time, and get everything out of it we can. That way, when we do find that man that tames our wild ways, we will never look back and say what if? We will say what was, and then look forward to the future what now?