What to DIY and What Not To DIY for Your Wedding

A DIY wedding can save you a lot of money, but it can also cause you a lot of stress. Even if you don’t do everything yourself, many couples decide to do some things themselves. It allows them to save a bit of cash and add a personal touch to their special day. The question is, what should you DIY and what’s better off left to the professionals?


Professional: Scheduling the Day


You probably think that it’s pretty easy for you to schedule everything, and decide what will be happening and when. It’s not as easy as you might hope it would be, but it’s also not the most complicated thing in the world. You probably will be involved in deciding how the day will progress, no matter what you do. However, the one thing you don’t want to do is to be in charge of scheduling on your wedding day. You have enough to worry about, without running around and trying to make sure everything is happening at the right time. Hire a coordinator instead.


DIY: Stationery


One of the first things that you’re likely to do for your wedding is send out save the date cards or invitations. The good thing about these is that even when you choose a professional route, you can still do a bit of DIY. You can either make your stationery from scratch (try to keep it simple), or you can use a website that will allow you to customize everything. This is an easy way to put your personal touch on your stationery while also saving money and receiving a professional finish.


Professional: Flowers


Flowers are everywhere at a wedding, from the venue to the bridal party bouquets and the groomsmen’s boutonnieres. It could be easy to convince yourself when looking at flower arrangements, that you could easily do it yourself. However, flower arranging is more difficult than you think. Not only that but if you do it yourself, you need to deal with collecting and arranging your flowers at the last minute. You don’t need that just before you get married. Use a professional florist if you want to have all of your flowers ready on time.

DIY: Decorations


If you want to help with decorating, making some decorations could be a lot easier for you to handle. They’re not going to perish before the big day, so you can make them in advance. Even paper decorations can look charming if you choose the right design. In particular, creating decorations for the ceremony is a good way to save some money. The ceremony won’t last long, so spending a lot of money on decorating might not be a priority for you. It’s easy to create some baskets of flowers or buy some candles (or LED lights) and decorate to your liking.



Professional: Cake


Even if you’re a seasoned baker, who has taken on similar challenges, who wants to spend the days before their wedding making their cake? Baking and decorating a cake that’s big enough to feed all your guests can take a long time, and then you have to get it to the venue. If you’re determined to bake your own cake, you’ll have to be prepared for a lot of stress. Using a professional is much easier, and you can still customize it to your liking.


DIY: Party Favors


If you want to provide a sweet treat for your guests, doing it with your party favors is a much easier DIY option. It’s not difficult to put together a few little gifts, whether you choose candy or something else. You can turn inexpensive items into something a bit more special just by adding a couple of your own details. For example, a candle can be a lot more presentable just by putting it in a glass holder and tying a ribbon around it. You can get your favors ready long before the wedding, so it won’t stress you out.

Professional: Outfits


Obviously, you want everyone to look their best on your wedding day. Some people do decide to make their own wedding outfits, which you could do over an extended period before your wedding. If you feel confident about it, it might be something you choose to do. However, unless you’re an experienced sewer, it’s not a great idea. If you want custom outfits, you can have a dress made or shop Chookhare.com for custom suits. There are some experienced professionals who can give you want you want so you can look perfect for your wedding.


DIY: Accessories


One thing you might find a bit easier to DIY is your accessories. It’s not as difficult to sew some pocket squares or even make a necklace as it is to make an entire dress or suit. If you want to make your own wedding jewelry, one of the easiest ways to do it is to learn to thread beads and choose some that you like. Another great option is to take a workshop. You can even make your own wedding rings under the guidance of an expert.

Professional and DIY: Photography


A lot of people will warn you not to DIY your photography. While it’s true that you probably want to avoid only having DIY photography, it doesn’t mean you can’t mix it up a bit. If you’re trying to save some money, consider having a professional photographer for the ceremony and perhaps a few photos afterward. For the rest of the day, you might consider something else. Maybe you have a friend who’s learning photography or does it for a hobby who you can trust (check their work first). Or you might just want to rely on your guests to take some photos. You’d be surprised how many accidentally excellent photos your guests can take. And, let’s face it, do you really need hundreds of professional photos of everyone dancing and getting drunk?


You can make your wedding special by choosing to DIY some of the elements. Just be careful about what you DIY and what you entrust to a professional.

Wedding Planning Tips to Make it Go Off Without a Hitch

Every bride and groom wants their special day to go off without a hitch. The only way to do this is by thoroughly planning the day. Taking your time to plan all of the most important elements of the day will ensure that the day goes off just as you pictured it, or close enough to it at least. There’s bound to be something small that goes awry on the day, after all, there’s so much to do and remember! However, that doesn’t mean you need to stress out about it. Simply going with the flow on your wedding day can mean you have a much nicer time with the people you love. Are you ready to plan your wedding? These wedding planning tips will make your big day go off without a hitch:


Think of Your Guests Before Anything Else


Before you even consider planning anything else, you need to think of your guests. Your guests are the most important part of your big day. You must ensure that the venue will be able to fit all of them comfortably. Not only that, you need room for all of your vendors too!


Help Plan for Out of Town Guests


If you want to make sure that out of town guests can make it, then help plan for them. You could hire transport for them, and give them detailed directions to where they need to go. You could even make sure that there are nice hotel rooms and things available for them in case they need to stay over. You might be able to get some great deals if you call around!


Make Some Purchases With Credit


You’ll probably need to loan some money to pay for your wedding, so make some large purchases with credit. Not only will you be protected for many of these purchases, you might also earn points that can be put towards a honeymoon. I did this for our wedding, and we earned a lot of cash rewards points.


Try to Get More Bang for Your Buck


When speaking to  vendors, try to get more bang for your buck before you agree on anything. See what extras they’re willing to throw in to secure you as a client! When I negotiated with my DJ, not only did  he agree to my terms, he complimented me on bargaining, stating that not many people are willing to bargain anymore. It is definitely worth asking.

Get Organised


You might feel a little bit like Monica from ‘Friends’, but getting organised is a really quick way to make sure your wedding goes off without a hitch. Use a folder to organise everything. You can even create an email address specifically for your wedding. This way, you’ll have everything important in one place.


Always Take Somebody Dress Shopping


Don’t try to go dress shopping alone, as it’s so easy to overwhelm yourself! Take at least one person you can trust. Just don’t consider taking your entire family, as conflicting views might confuse you. To make it easier, you can order some wedding outfits from trusted places like New York Bride & Groom of Raleigh.


Start Planning as Early on As Possible


The more time you have to plan and prepare, the better. Start planning as early on as possible to reduce stress. Pinterest is your best friend. I wish it had been around when I was planning my wedding.


Don’t Necessarily Stick to Tradition


You don’t have to stick to tradition if that isn’t your thing. You need to do what’s right for you as a couple. Tradition says you can’t see each other before the wedding, but having a few moments alone together away from all of the madness before it starts can be magical! Match and I didn’t see each other, but we did go a non-traditional route by having his sister marry us. I wouldn’t change a thing about that decision!


Be a Team


Make sure you’re a team throughout the whole planning process. Don’t turn into a bridezilla! My biggest regret was  not having bridesmaids to help me through the day. I did have wonderful friends who came through, but having a true wedding team would have been so nice.


Know You Can’t Please Everybody


You won’t be able to make everybody happy, so don’t fret. As long as your wedding is special to you!


Above all else, remember why you’re marrying your partner. Have a wonderful day!

Talk to Us Tuesday-Geeky’s Wedding

Jeremy: We are going to have tons and tons of opportunities to meet gorgeous ladies that are so aroused by the thought of marriage that they’ll throw their inhibitions to the wind.
John: And who’s going to be there to catch them?
Jeremy: Grab that net and catch that beautiful butterfly pal! What do you like better, Christmas or Wedding season? (raises hand)
John: Mister Grey.
Jeremy: Yes, um, the answer would be, um, wedding season?
John: Bingo. I’m gonna go get my suit. Oh, and now who are we this time? –Wedding Crashers

brought to you by: the ever Fabulous Impulsive Addict and Seriously Shawn

  • Sunday was Geeky’s wedding. I’m so happy for her! It feels like just yesterday she was the guest at mine, with her Fire Guy doing the reach and trying to catch that garter. I knew then he was going to propose. And here we are just over a year later and she’s a new bride! Her wedding dress was beautiful and she was beaming the entire night. You know I totally got teary eyed when they exchanged their rings. I’m so excited that she’s joined the married club!
  • Awkward moment happened the minute the bridesmaids walked down the aisle. For you to know this was awkward first look at the dress I chose to wear for her fall wedding.

  • cute right? I loved it, and it was an absolute steal at Plato’s Closet, where I got it for 8 bucks! I emailed a cell phone pic of it to Geeky because she had mentioned her bridesmaids were wearing brown. I asked her if my dress was the same color, and if it was too similar. She said no and to definitely buy it.
  • but I was regretting my bargain decision when the bridesmaids walked by wearing dresses almost identical to mine. 
  • luckily Geeky didn’t care one bit. But remember bitchface girl from the bachelorette? Of course she had to say something snarky. There’s always one in a group isn’t there? I was feeling very self conscious but after the first few glasses of wine I got over it.
  • The wedding was a lot of fun. It reminded me a lot of our wedding. It was at a golf course, with the ceremony outside and the reception indoors. There were a lot more people at hers though, and she had a shit ton of bridesmaids. I’m soooo glad we didn’t have any. Match and I kept joking around that it was the high price version of our wedding, since they had plated dinners and it was at a fancier building.
  • Geeky sat us at a table with a super fun couple from San Francisco. We clicked with them right away and City Girl and I exchanged numbers before the night was up. I really hope we get together with them soon. They were so fun!
  • Match and I danced all night. I wish I’d had someone snap photos because it’s rare that we get to dance like that. Usually Match prefers to observe while I go out there and shake my tail feathers, but he was in a really social mood. He twirled me all over the dance floor and just like at every wedding we go to, I fell in love with him all over again. I love how weddings have that effect. Wedding photo backdrops set for pictures
  • The wedding was a ton of fun and I’m so happy for my friend. She’s such a sweet and genuine person and nobody deserves happiness more than her!

Our First Wedding Anniversary

You never know the biggest day of your life is going to be the biggest. The days you think are going to be big ones, they are never as big as you make them out to be in your head. It’s the regular days, the ones that start out normal. Those are the days that end up being the biggest. And today was the wedding. It was beautiful. Perfect. -Izzie, Grey’s Anatomy

A year ago today I married the love of my life which you can read about here and here in case you missed it. I was a princess for a day, and I was making my girl friends hum and “LOOK AWAY!!” while they helped me go potty in my giant dress. I was all dolled up and I have never felt so beautiful, or more loved. Walking down that aisle I had eyes only for Match. I knew I was making the single most important decision in my life and I had absolutely no doubts. That day I laughed and cried so many happy tears. It was perfect.

I wanted to share with you a slideshow I made of video clips from our wedding day. This is something that was also on my Project 52 List, and I’m so happy with how it turned out. I made a longer version for us and our parents that includes the whole wedding ceremony and a lot of the reception with our guests. This one I made especially for my readers. Enjoy it! I cry every time I watch it. I’m such a cheeseball.

Click on the picture and it should take you to the video.

From Lunss

I think about how Match and I will curl up on the couch and watch this slideshow on our 25th, 30th, even 50th anniversary and it makes me smile. Match, I love you more than words can ever say and every day I’m so grateful to have you in my life.

Friday Daydreamin-The Day Before Our Anniversary

Ever since I was a little girl, I had this fairytale idea about the perfect wedding- Carla, Scrubs

Holy cow I can’t believe it’s already September. Not just September, but one day before our one year wedding anniversary. I can’t believe it’s been a whole year already. Now if we’d had a real honeymoon, I would definitely be posting my daydreaming picture of us on it. As it was, we were too broke for a honeymoon. But if I could be anywhere right now, I think I would be reliving our wedding day.

I was so unbelievably, indescribably happy.