Naturally, you’re going to want your wedding day to be perfect. However, there’s only one person (or should I say two people) that it has to be perfect for – you! It doesn’t matter what anybody else thinks as long as you love it. Here’s how you can make your wedding day perfect for you:
Do Lots of Research
Do lots of research on different kinds of weddings, themes, and vendors to get an idea of what your wedding day could be like. You don’t have to have a traditional wedding day just because that’s what people might be expecting. The more research you do, the more ideas you’ll get.
Plan in Advance
Start planning your day in advance so that you get all of the vendors you really want for your special day. Many vendors will book up pretty early, so to avoid disappointment make sure you don’t procrastinate. The best catering services will be booked up really far in advance, so make sure you think ahead.
Get Important People Involved
One of the best ways to have the best day of your life is to get all of the people you love involved. Rather than using hired people to do some things, why not use your nearest and dearest? You could get them to do the videography, for example, if you have somebody in your family with a talent for recording. This will save you money too! However, you could also have somebody sing, recite something meaningful, or do something like that to make your day special. My cousin played guitar, and Match’s sister was ordained and married us!
You don’t need to stick to traditions if they don’t mean anything to you or speak to you in some way. You can drop them if you don’t love them! One tradition that many couples are dropping, is not seeing their other half until the alter. Many are having some quiet time with them before they marry, before all of the chaos ensues. We didn’t do this, but I do remember wishing I could go talk to him before the wedding. We did drop the tradition of registering for wedding china, because, who needs? We also dropped the tradition of having a bridal party. It’s something I regret a little bit, but it also made things less complicated.
Get creative with your big day. You can take it in just about any direction you want to! You could have a pirate themed wedding if that’s what you really wanted. All that matters is you do what feels right to you and enjoy it.
The worst thing you can do on your wedding day is stress. It’s all too easy to get stressed out if something hasn’t gone exactly to plan, but there’s nothing you can do about it anyway. You shouldn’t let something small ruin your mood and change your big day. Practice de-stressing before the day and you’ll be able to cope well with anything thrown your way on the day. I stressed out near my wedding date, and ended up breaking out in hives on my arm. The swelling went down, but you can still see the hives in pictures. It makes me so sad!
Hopefully, these tips will help you to make your wedding day as perfect for you as it possibly can be. At the end of the day, it’s only your opinion that counts. If you want to base your wedding day around your favorite film, then do it! If you have tips of your own, leave them below.
When you start to plan your wedding it can feel a little overwhelming. There is a lot to plan and a lot to remember to include. There can also be the pressure of your expectations. There may have been a few things that you would have wanted in your wedding, since you were quite young. Some of us have been planning our dream wedding since we were much younger. So when the prospect of it is becoming a reality, it can lead to mixed emotions. You’ll be excited but it could be quite a daunting prospect. You want your day to be perfect and go just as you have always imagined it.
With all of these thoughts flying around your head, it can stress you out. We don’t want any stressed out brides-to-be, though! Here are a few steps to take, to make sure that you achieve your dream wedding, with as little stress as possible.
Pick a Date
This first step might seem like an obvious one. But you must start at the beginning; it’s a very good place to start! It can be hard to pull of a big dream wedding with short notice. In most cases you will need to have at least six months to plan it all. The best thing to do is to start with the location. This can help you to decide when the wedding will be. Quite often we might have a season or month of the year that we are leaning towards. So if you have always wanted a summer wedding, the location will decide the date for you. If your dream wedding is a big church wedding, you need to make sure what dates the church you want to get married in is available. If you have always wanted to get married in a certain country house or barn, again, you need to check availability. Quite often this narrows down the dates that you have to choose from. Once you have the date, so many more things can be arranged. Some of you readers may remember that Match and I picked a date, and then had to change it after we’d put down deposits and everything! Lucky for us it worked out, but it is definitely not something I’d recommend!
Your Wedding Dress
In most cases, you will want to get trying on dresses as soon as you know you are engaged. This is quite wise, to be honest. If you have imagined a certain style of dress for a long time, the chances are that you will get a dress adjusted or made. This can take around nine months to get just right. So if you are having an engagement of about a year, you should try on dresses sooner rather than later. Here is a quick timeline of the wedding dress and things to bear in mind.
Nine months before the wedding you will want to pick your gown. This will involve paying a deposit in most cases. About half the cost of the dress is common. The dress will be made just to your measurements. Around three months before the wedding, the gown will be just about finished. You will go for a fitting and any adjustments will be made. About six weeks before the wedding you will have another fitting. This will be an important one. So don’t go and lose too much weight after it. Or equally, don’t go and only eat doughnuts from then until the wedding! Some minor changes to the dress will be made if needed. A month before the wedding you will have a fitting with the headpiece and veil if you are using. It is important to take the underwear you will be wearing for the wedding too. Trying it on altogether is a must. The final fitting is usually two weeks before the wedding. The dress will be done and it is important to have everything with you to try everything on. So have your shoes, veil, jewellery, tiara or any other accessories with you for the final fitting. You might take your dress with you then. Sometimes dresses are only picked up a few days before the wedding. At the final fitting, you will pay the balance of the dress and any extra for alterations. There is more about the timeline of your dress over at www.theknot.com/.
Hair and Makeup
Now you have thought about your dress; you need to think about the style of hair system and makeup you will have. You might have always wanted your hair in a certain style. If so, it is important to find a friend or hairdresser that will be able to recreate the style. If you aren’t sure what to go for, make sure you attend a few trial sessions. You could try a few different hairdressers too. You want to have the look that you have always wanted. Think about what style will look good with your dress too. A higher neck might suit an up hairstyle better. Something with a wider neck, or without sleeves, might suit a hairstyle where a lot of hair is down. Try out a few things and see what you like best.
Like you should have trials for your hair, you should have trials for your makeup. Unless you are a makeup guru, it will eliminate a lot of stress if someone else does your makeup on the day. Look up some pictures online of wedding makeup to give you some ideas. If you normally don’t wear a lot of makeup, your wedding day isn’t the time to start to wear dark, smokey eyes. So think about what you normally wear and go for a similar, but slightly more dramatic look. It is important to think about the run up to the wedding too. Make sure you are drinking plenty of water in the weeks leading up to it. This will help to reduce the chance of getting spots and pimples. You will want your skin to look flawless!
Planning the Ceremony and Reception
The best way to plan the ceremony and reception is to know what budget you have in mind. You can have a fantastic wedding on any budget. The good thing about them is that they can be completely personalised. If you have always wanted a string quartet as you walk down the aisle, then you could get one. Calling on friends and family with talents is a great way to save yourself a lot of cash too. Have you got friends that play the violin or play in any musical groups? They could be recruited to organise the music if that is what you have always wanted. My cousin played guitar while I walked down the aisle, and it was beautifully done. I just wish someone had thought to record it!
You might have always wanted to have a wedding with a bit of a ‘wow’ factor. Have you always wanted to fly off to your honeymoon in a private helicopter? Have you always wanted to have fireworks as you leave the evening reception? It could all happen, depending on your budget and plans. For something like a firework display, it is a great idea to get a professional in to run it. You can find out more information about having a firework display at www.fireworksinternational.co.uk/wedding-firework-displays/. I wanted to have a photobooth at our reception, and I wish I had budgeted for it. They are so fun, and would have provided that wow factor we wanted.
To be able to remember your dream wedding, you want to have an amazing photographer. If you look back at your wedding photos and are disappointed, it will not leave you feeling positive when you look back and think about your wedding. For photographers, in can be very much a case of ‘you get what you pay for’. You will need one that is in your budget, but you want to see a lot of their previous work to get an idea of their style.
It is important to meet the photographer in person too. Take them to your wedding location of that is possible. Then they can get thinking about what pictures they could shoot. Give your ideas and listen to theirs too. One good thing is to have a list of the pictures that you want to have. You may have always wanted a certain style of a picture with your groom, or with your father, for example. The photographer needs to know that, or you will be disappointed if the picture doesn’t happen. You can’t rely on remembering on the wedding day. There will be so many things you will be thinking about and photography won’t be one of the priorities for you! One of the best pieces of advice is not to listen too closely to other people’s unsolicited opinions. You might find people telling you that you shouldn’t have a certain colour bridesmaid dresses for a certain season. If you want to have dark blue bridesmaids dresses in spring, then you can have dark blue bridesmaids dresses in spring. You will find a lot of people have opinions about the smallest of things when it comes to weddings. My mother-in-law to be told me that lilies were for funerals, but I told her they were my favorite. I’m glad I didn’t compromise!
Just remember it is a special day for you and your love. You are the two people that will make the decisions. You won’t be able to please any one, particularly when it comes to something like a seating plan. Just make sure those people are the two of you.
Liz: I’m telling you, this is my year. I feel like the show’s going to be great and I’m very positive that I’m going to meet someone else.
Jack: Women your age are more likely to be mauled at the zoo than get married. –30 Rock
Happy New Year! The lovely Michelle did a great post about the year in review and I loved it so much I thought I would do my own. 2010 was an incredible year for me, and it definitely deserves a review.
This past year I…
Planned our wedding.
Had fantastic parties thrown in my honor, like my Hen Party and my Bridal Shower.
Went on my first trip to Tahoe with Match, and can’t wait to go again soon.
Survived Match working graveyard shifts and being like two ships passing in the night. I got really good at playing psp solo games and finding other ways to occupy my evenings alone, like making my own escort cards and working on our guestbook scrapbook.
Set the date and then reset the date of our wedding and survived the aftermath of that mess.
Celebrated with Match as he got accepted into the Law Enforcement Training Academy.
Got married to the most amazing, dedicated, incredible man of my dreams.
Turned 27, which used to sound so old to me. Now it doesn’t seem so bad, especially with 30 looming out there in front of me.
Moved to a new town, and survived the first few weeks of Match’s academy, which was basically like bootcamp hell.
In 2011 we will…
Have three weddings to attend: Token Gay Couple, Chandler & Monica, and Geeky and her Fireman.
Match’s Academy Graduation and the start of his law enforcement career. I will attempt to not develop ulcers from worrying.
Our long overdue honeymoon. At this point I think I’ll settle for a three day weekend here in California. Just as long as we get to spend some quality time together. Maybe we’ll go camping!
We’ll celebrate our one year anniversary. I’ll try not to pout that I’m no longer a blushing bride and don’t get to have fabulous parties thrown for me. Well, except my birthday. 😉
Hopefully I’ll be on my way to a new career.
Our lives have changed so much since last January, and I’m so excited to see what this next year holds!
Jim: So this morning, we are having breakfast together…and I just looked up from my cereal and I said, “You know what I wanna do today? I wanna marry you.”
Pam: I had just woken up. I didn’t look cute. That’s how I knew he meant it. –The Office
A year ago tonight, Match asked me to marry him. I can’t believe it’s only been a year! So much has happened and our lives have changed so drastically in just 12 months.
I remember thinking in that moment that I couldn’t be happier. But I am, because now I’m not just Match’s fiancée, I’m his wife. Here we are about to spend our first Christmas together as a married couple. We’re starting new traditions and our life together is just beginning. At the risk of sounding cheesy, Match, you really are the best Christmas present I could ever ask for!
Four years ago, I was just a guy who had a crush on a girl who had a boyfriend. And I had to do the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do, which was to wait. And don’t get me wrong, I flirted with her…I just had little moments with a girl who saw me as a friend. And a lot of people told me I was crazy to wait this long for a date with a girl who I worked with, but I think that even then I knew that I was waiting for my wife.-Jim, The Office
Let me start by saying, wow! I’m overwhelmed by your comments. I’m so happy to be able to share the most important day of my life with you all. You guys have been a part of it from the beginning! 🙂 Second, this is perhaps the longest post I’ve written yet, and I apologize. There were just so many amazing moments that I had to share with you!
Now that we’re past the tearfest, it’s time for the PARTY! Ok, I won’t lie, there are still some tear jerker moments. Like when Match’s Mom and my Mom gave their toasts. Then the first dance, and the father/daughter dance. But I’m getting ahead of myself.
Let’s start with our grand entrance back to at the reception room. We were at the golf course for the ceremony and they had a golf cart ready for us to drive back up to the reception. Typically the groom drives the cart. But you all know I’m not your typical girl. So of course I drove it.
The reception room has a deck so all of our guests were leaning over the railing cheering us on as we drove up. Then the DJ had everyone go inside the reception room and wait for our grand entrance.
We walked in to the song, “Ain’t That a Kick in the Head” by Dean Martin.
I wish I could remember what Match whispered to me that I found so funny.
I was so overwhelmed by the amount of love that just emanated from the room. I just kept saying, “Oh wow, oh how beautiful!” I can’t even describe what an amazing feeling it is to be surrounded by all of your loved ones in the same room, all standing and clapping for you. It was truly incredible.
I was so touched that so many of my friends and family took off time from their jobs to make it to the wedding. There were hugs all around as we finally got to see all of our loved ones. Right after that our coordinator ushered us over to the buffet table for food. I loved our day of coordinator. She came with the venue and she did such a great job of keeping the day flowing. She made sure we ate too! We are one of the rare and lucky couples that actually got to eat on our wedding day. Match even got seconds!
I know it doesn’t look that appetizing in the picture but I swear it was so good. I wish I’d had a better appetite. I was just too excited to eat. Plus my friend who warned us about the sweetheart’s table was right-everyone stares at you while you eat!
Then it was time for the toasts. My mom was the first to make her speech, and I was blown away with how calm and collected she was. I told her afterwards she should speak in public more often! She talked about the first time I brought Match home to meet my parents. She said watching us cook in the kitchen together, she knew he was the one for me. Cooking and eating are a big deal in my family and the way we worked so effortlessly together, she knew we were made for each other.
MIL was next to give her toast. It started off shaky, because she definitely doesn’t like to speak in front of people or be the center of attention. She started by talking about how when you have a child you want the very best for them. You want to make sure that as they mature they make the right choices. She said that she has no doubt that Match made the right choice, and will continue to make the right choices because he has me by his side.
I was trying to keep it together in this picture. I started bawling when she finished with that line. We hugged and there wasn’t a dry eye in the house.
Match got up, a little begrudgingly, because like his mom, he hates being the center of attention. I think he did a great job. He thanked everyone for being a part of our special day. He said he couldn’t be happier and that he was absolutely the luckiest man in the world.
After the toasts it was time for our first dance. It was sweet, but I have to admit, I wish we’d picked a faster song. I love our song, Then by Brad Paisley, but it felt like it went on for a long time. I think that was just because everyone was starring at us and I’m a terrible slow dancer. I kept laughing and saying I was going to step on his shoes. He kept saying, “I lead, not you!” Hehehe.
The second dance was the father/daughter dance with my Pops. I couldn’t help it-I bawled like a baby. We chose the song, “You’re Gonna Miss This” by Trace Atkins.
After a few minutes, Match and his mom joined us on the dance floor, along with his Sis Travel Girl and her dad, and my Mom and my brother. By then I think a lot of our guests were crying along with us.
Then it was time to celebrate! Everyone wiped their eyes and got down to boogie on the dance floor.
Everyone mingled and danced and it felt like the two families and all the groups of friends had known each other for years.
Birthday Twin made it along with his long time girlfriend. They seemed to enjoy themselves, though frankly I didn’t spend much time with them. BT and I have grown so distant over the last two years. Still it was nice that he was there and they had a good time.
Best Friend was there-he made the trip all the way from San Diego. I was thrilled he could be there. After our years of friendship and our crazy, messy history it’s so nice to still call him my friend. He gave me a big hug and said, “You got your M.R.S!” He used to tease me in college that I was going to school for my M.R.S. He said he was so glad I found such a good guy and that I truly deserved to be this happy.
We had a fun moment on the deck where Best Friend, Brazil’s Hubby, The Enabler, and Old Married Hubby convinced me to smoke a cigar.
Before I knew it, it was time to cut the cake. The coordinator told me how we cut the cake represented how we work together as a team. This was hilarious because I couldn’t seem to cut the cake, and after a minute Match said, oh let me do it. So I guess that’s how we work. He does everything for me! 😉
Immediately after cake we had the bouquet and garter tosses. This was another classic moment-my cousin’s girlfriend didn’t just catch the bouquet, she swiped it. Then she whispered to me, “It better work!” It was adorable and I couldn’t be happier for her. Of course I felt bad for Tahoe Girl who really wanted to catch the bouquet. If you look closely, that’s her hand desperately reaching for it. She knows her and Tahoe Guy will get married. They’ve been together for 9 years! I think he’s just waiting for the right time since all of the couples in our group are getting married and he wants her to have her own moment. Hopefully next year he’ll propose!
The garter toss was a surprise as well. I’ve always been to weddings where the guys refuse to catch the garter. By the way don’t I look completely in pain in this picture? Like he’s biting my leg and not the garter? Hehehe. I was just really embarrassed.
Best Friend reached out and snatched the garter so fast I didn’t even see it happen!
The rest of the night is kind of a blur. There was tons of dancing and laughter. At one point my uncles tossed me in the air. I really wish someone had captured that on camera. At the end of the night the DJ got everyone to crowd around us while we danced together. It was another moment where my breath caught in my throat as I felt all of the love surrounding us. It was the perfect way to end a perfect day.