TTUT-How We Told the Grandparents to Be

Dr. Leonard Green: What’s new with you?
Rachel: Um… I got TiVo!
Dr. Leonard Green: What’s TiVo?
Phoebe: It’s slang for pregnant. –Friends

Today I’m checking in with two hot mamas: Impulsive Addict and Seriously Shawn

Match and I had this grand plan to not tell people about Roo until the doctor confirmed our pregnancy. Well that scheme lasted all of four days until we were both just about to burst. So we agreed that we would only tell our parents and siblings, and then wait for the doctor for everyone else.

I wanted to do something creative, and it was Match who came up with the idea. We took two old tshirts and some puff paint and got to creating.

Mine said Baby on Board with a little arrow pointing to my belly and Match insisted his should say Who’s Your Daddy? We were both wearing the shirts when we called our parents and had them use the Skype web conferencing services with us.

In typical Mom fashion, my mom couldn’t get her side of the video to work, so we could hear her but not see her. I guess the wording on our shirts appeared backwards on her screen, and I could hear her saying, “What’s your shirt say? It’s backwards. What’s that…baby?” Then she screamed at the top of her lungs when she realized what it said. I wish we could have seen her reaction, and I made sure to tease her for it. By the time she got her video working the moment was over, but I still got to see her and my Pops grinning. They’re both so excited to be grandparents for the third time (my brother has two toddlers).

Then it came time to tell the in-laws. This I was so excited for because they will be first time grandparents. They did get the video working right away, but they also had the problem with the image being backwards. My mother in-law was so cute because I think she was afraid it was a joke, or that she’d misread it because she said tentatively, “Are you…are you pregnant?” And then when I nodded and said yes, she clapped her hands and I could see tears in her eyes.

Here’s my mom still trying to figure out the Skype on the “darn computer” she calls it.

and here’s my overjoyed in-laws. I love that I was able to catch that reaction. I know the sunglasses make them look ridiculous, but I like to hide faces when I can. But you had to see that grin!

After we were done talking to our parents, we decided we’d better tell our siblings. This was mostly because my mother-in-law was so anxious for us to tell her daughter that I was afraid she would do it. She had a hard enough time when we said she couldn’t tell her sisters until our doctor’s visit. It’s been killing her these past few weeks, and I know exactly how she feels.

So for the siblings, they didn’t want to skype and neither my brother nor Match’s sis understood why we were pestering them. So I said I was emailing them a picture of the house and to call me as soon as they got it. This is the picture they got instead, and it had our phones blowing up quick!

We had such a blast telling our immediate family. I love that we were able to capture moments of it on camera. Ideally we would have been there in person, but this was the next best thing. The next morning both our moms had emailed us bubbly emails about how excited they were. They each have unique nicknames they want to be called, which I think is so cute. I loved telling the family in our own special way. Next up…how we told our friends!

Carmel Part 3: A Toast to Us

Ducky: A toast! Close friends and dear family all. A bountiful thanks and good things for Fall!
Abby: And to all a good night! [pause] Wrong holiday.-NCIS

Sorry I had to spread out the Carmel trip into so many posts, but we did so much! I didn’t want to jam it all into one entry. Alright so we had just gone on an amazing kayaking adventure and we’d worked up quite an appetite. We went to our favorite Mexican restaurant in Carmel. There was a band playing so Travel Girl, MIL and I danced to a couple of songs while the boys laughed at us.

After dinner we went back to the rental house and cooked smores on the outdoor bbq and had a champagne toast.

MIL started by toasting to Travel Girl and her boyfriend for being there, and for Travel Girl finally being able to join the family on the trip for the first time in 6 years.

Then MIL said she knew our anniversary was coming up and had a little something she wanted to share with us. Do you guys remember my wedding guest book? Well, MIL never wrote in it. She said she did it on purpose because she’d always planned on writing in it for our one year anniversary. I’m going to share with you a little excerpt from what you she wrote. She read it aloud to us, and by the end of it we were both crying.

I believe that the most important role for a parent is to not only provide their children with a safe and nurturing home to grow up in, the love of parents who accept them unconditionally, but also to guide them to make choices in life that will sustain their happiness and can be passed onto generations to come. That legacy is what makes our lives worth living. Soon it will be your turn and FIL and I look forward to sharing in those chapters in your life together.

The first year of marriage is challenging and from our perspective it is a challenge you have met with great success in part because you share the same goals, you communicate with each other, you are patient and support each other in all your endeavors…and, of course, the LOVE you share. We believe as we did on your wedding day that you two have made the right choice to marry. May you have a lifetime of happy years together.

This toast meant so much to me, especially since I had been under the impression that MIL did not approve of mine and Match’s choice for me to stay at home. It was a very sweet moment and one I will cherish.

After all the sentimental stuff, we finished our champagne and headed back into the house to play board games.

We passed out early again that night, all of us exhausted from a long day of fun. We decided to let Monkey sleep on the bed and he was quick to wiggle his way into the middle. How cute is my dog? I mean really.

We got up fairly early the next morning and took the puppies to the beach to play. My favorite part about Carmel beach is that it’s off leash.

We wore matching sweatshirts because we’re that couple.

After lunch we went back down to the beach and spent the afternoon relaxing, eating, drinking and playing this really cool game MIL bought called Ladder Ball. It’s so much fun, but super hard to play. Of course the boys figured it out right away.

We had unheard of warm weather for Carmel, and at one point Match went a little insane and jumped into the ocean. He says it was warm but I don’t believe a word of it.

It was another amazing trip to Carmel and I can’t wait to go back.

Carmel Part 2-Adventures in Kayaking

Lo: I’m not going on the kayak. Brody: You’re at a beach. Lo: I’m too afraid, I don’t want to go overboard. –The Hills

The second day of our Carmel trip we got up early and did our traditional morning walk to get pastries at the local bakery. I think it’s the one time of year that I eat chocolate croissants. Do you guys watch Ellen? Have you seen her segment, what’s wrong with this pictures? Well, click on the picture below to enlarge it, and tell me what you think is wrong with this picture. Keep in mind this was taken at around 930, 10ish in the morning.

If you guessed alcohol, you’d be correct. Match planted the bottle in front of his sis, but he’s the only one who put a little Irish in his morning coffee. Hey, he’s on vacation, away from stresses like worrying about his car title loans Connecticut and bills and such. I don’t mind if he has a little irish in his coffee. 😉

Over breakfast, Match’s mom suggested that the four of us go sea kayaking while she and my father in-law took the dogs to the beach. Having never been even river kayaking I was nervous but decided to go for it, so long as Match promised we’d get a two person kayak. I’m so glad we went because it was an incredible experience. We started out by getting suited up at the kayak shop.

and then we were off. I think the push off was the worst part. It felt like there was just so little between me and the water, and the water was not warm. I was terrified of going overboat.

After a few minutes I was able to relax and soak in my surroundings.

We had a group of very curious otters that came by to investigate us.

We also paddled right by a jelly fish. It was so beautiful floating under the water. My quick snapshots don’t do it justice at all.

We couldn’t stop grinning the entire time. I think Match and I are going to have to buy a kayak someday. We’re hooked!

We paddled around the Monterey bay for a little over and hour and we were exhausted by the time we got back. It was a combination of a great workout and also relaxing. Getting back to shore was a little harder than I thought it would be, and I ended up toppling over in the sand when trying to get out of the boat. I didn’t do as badly as Travel’s boyfriend, who flat out fell in the water. It didn’t help that I was laughing at him and that’s part of why I fell down. Luckily he was a good sport and ran over to Travel Girl for a smooch.

After kayaking we met up with Match’s mom for drinks at Cannery Row in Monterey.

The boys found a cigar shop and bonded over their love for a nice stoogie. I found a cigar Indian buddy.

When we got back we all passed out for a power nap before heading out to dinner. More on that in my next post. Have you ever been kayaking?

Carmel Part 1: Just Like Riding a Bike

Gloria[to Jay and Manny, about learning to ride a bike] You two have fun. I pass. It makes no sense. There’s no reason that thing should stay upright.

Jay: There’s no reason you should stay upright, but it just works. –Modern Family

This was my third trip to Carmel with Match and his family, and the first with my sister in law. She brought her boyfriend and it was the first time Match and I met him. Needless to say in a two bedroom vacation rental, we had quite the full house with the 6 of us and two dogs. Despite not having a room to ourselves, we still had a great time, possibly the best we’ve had in Carmel yet!

The first day Match had to catch up on sleep having just worked the night shift Thursday. So we left him at the house while the rest of us went to Monterey for a bike ride. The last time I rode a bike for any length of time I was probably in my teens. I was nervous that I would fall, or lag way behind because it’s been so long. But it’s true what they say and before long it was like no time had passed. I managed to stay upright the entire 2 hour long ride!

I’m not sure the exact distance we went, but we were all panting and sore by the time we stopped. We found a pub on the ride back and stopped in for appetizers and fuel aka beer.

My in-laws are the cutest. Over 30 years together and still all kissy face.

That night we all walked to downtown Carmel for a nice dinner at an Italian restaurant.

The food was amazing and company excellent. We got to knew Travel Girl’s beau a little bit better. It’s obvious that the two are very much in love and that makes me happy.

After dinner we had to walk off all that food, so we did a little window shopping. I did what I do best and acted like a fool.

We passed right out that night, exhausted from the bike ride. I can’t wait to get a bike of my own someday.  When’s the last time you took a long bike ride somewhere?

Friday Confessional-Carmel Bound and Bathroom Sex

Robin: When PJ had a job, he was sexy. He was guardian of the bathroom key. A hot guy telling you when you can and can’t pee? That’s the dream.
Ted: [incredulous] That’s the dream? The dream?!?!?! Like what Martin Luther King was talking about?? –How I Met Your Mother

I confess…

That I quit my volunteer gig at the crisis nursery. I feel bad about it but it just wasn’t a good fit for me. I was physically dreading going, to the point where my body felt sick and sluggish. The minute I emailed the coordinator telling her it wasn’t going to work out, I felt a weight lift off my chest. Shouldn’t volunteering feel rewarding? A big part of my reason for quitting was the staff and how they made me feel.

Another part was just the nature of the job. It was a lot of stress and responsibilities to deal with and now just isn’t  a good time. I think if I were like the other volunteers and had already raised children of my own, or had a lot of experience dealing with kids, then it would be another story. I did really love playing with the kids for the most part, and I’m still on the lookout for something in the future that involves working with kids. Maybe just not kids in crisis, but more of a nursery or after school program instead. Somewhere they would train me properly. I’d also like something in the town we are moving to when we buy a house. This volunteer job would have been a huge trek and cost us a lot in gas and bridge toll when we move.

I confess…

That our lives are also going to be consumed with buying a home. I know that once we close, I’m going to spend all of my spare time fixing up the house and making it our own. I cannot wait to become homeowners!

I confess…

That we put an offer in on a home on Sunday and we’re still waiting to hear back. I’m trying not to lose hope but it’s not looking good guys. I don’t even want to post pictures of it because it’ll bum me out. It’s sooo pretty.

I confess…

That I’m so so excited for our annual trip to Carmel. We are leaving just as soon as Match gets home from work today. I’m driving us so he can sleep and try to get on a normal day schedule. It will be so nice to walk the beaches with Match and Monkey. To get up in the morning and get coffee and donuts for the fam. To drink gin and tonics and watch the waves crash on the sand.

I confess…

That the only thing I’m dreading is having to sleep in the living room. This year Match’s sister, Travel Girl and her boyfriend will be joining us. It’s the first time we’re meeting him, and it’s the first time I’ve vacationed anywhere with her. Since she hasn’t been to Carmel in so long, and they are staying longer than we are, Match’s parents are giving them the guest room. This leaves us, the married couple, to the living room.

I confess…

That Match and I both think this is bullshit. BUT the in-laws are paying for the vacation rental, and a lot of the food for the weekend, and I really shouldn’t complain. I’m so grateful because otherwise we’d have to take out a check city payday advance loans. We are guests of theirs and we will have fun no matter where we have to sleep. They just might have to deal with us locking ourselves in the bathroom for a little vacation nookie. Hey, that’s what happens when you don’t give the newlywed couple who haven’t had a lot of time together lately the bedroom! 😉

I confess…

It wouldn’t be the first time Match and I have done it in the bathroom of a parent’s house. We are so bad! Where’s the craziest place you’ve done it? Come on spill! Confession is good for the soul!