TTUT-The Man, The Legend

[Robin complains about Marshall’s depression after Lily leaves him.]
Robin: This has to stop! Ted, we just started dating. We agreed we don’t want to move too fast, and somehow, we have a baby. He can’t feed himself, he cries a lot, he keeps us up all night.
Barney: Have you tried breast feeding? Nailed it! -Friends

with Impulsive Addict and Seriously Shawn

  • Piglet and I went to our first outing on Saturday, just the two of us. We went to a BBQ with some friends from church. It went pretty well, except Piglet started a growth spurt and wanted to nurse the.entire.time. I’m not one of those whip it out types (more power to you ladies that are) and I use a cover up, but with being outdoors, and the wind, it just wasn’t working that great. I ended up leaving early because I was tired, and I knew Piglet was hungry. I think he was also just overwhelmed by the noise, people, the smells, etc. I think it’ll get easier for both of us the more we go out.
  • Piglet is 5 weeks as of yesterday and starting to fit into 0-3mon clothes. I love that he can finally wear this onesie from his baby shower! 🙂P1080383
  • Tahoe Couple stopped by Sunday to meet Piglet. I didn’t peg Tahoe Guy to be a baby guy, but he seemed right at ease. Piglet passed out in his arms!P1080393 P1080386
  • Only 10 days until Monica and Chandler move back to California! They’ve been in Scotland for the past year, and I’m so so so excited they’re coming back. She got a job at a Veterinarian just about an hour from our house. I can’t tell you how happy it makes me to have them closer.
  • We didn’t do a whole lot for Father’s Day this year. I made Match a slideshow with video clips and pictures of my pregnancy with Piglet, up through this month. We both got teary eyed watching it. Last night we went out for take out as a celebration of both Mother and Father’s Day, since Mother’s Day I was in the early stages of labor. Next year hopefully we’ll do more, but I think just spending time together as a family of 3 was enough for me.
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TTUT-Game Night With the Group

Leonard: Oh, before I forget, Saturday I’m planning a little Dungeons and Dragons night with the guys.
Penny: Really? That’s how you’re gonna spend your Saturday night?
Leonard: Oh, come on, I hardly ever get a chance to play anymore.
Penny: Oh, you poor thing. Is having a real-life girlfriend who has sex with you getting in the way of your board games?
Leonard: Little bit, yeah. -The Big Bang Theory

with Impulsive Addict and Seriously Shawn

This past Saturday I had a chance to hang out with the group! It’s been such a long time since we all got together. I think last summer to be exact! Monica is here visiting from Scotland, going to job interviews for after she graduates from vet school. She’ll be home for good (along with Chandler!) in just 4 months, and I can’t wait to have her back in the states full time! She’s visited me twice on this visit, and stayed over last Wednesday. I felt lucky that she took time during her limited trip to hang with me.

Most of the group was able to get together, except for Match, Chandler, and Tomboy. Chandler’s Older Brother and his wife were there, who is also pregnant! She’s only a month behind me, and also having a boy!

We played this great game called Cards Against Humanity. If you haven’t played it, think a very, very perverted version of Apples to Apples. You have to answer the questions or complete the statement on the black card with one of the cards in your deck, and then the person reading picks the best one. Here’s an example I found online. I wish I’d taken pictures of ours. We couldn’t stop laughing. I almost pulled a Shawn and peed my pants a few times! 😉

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I think the coolest part of the night for me was that Piglet was kicking up a storm, harder than he’s ever kicked before. I think it’s because we were laughing so much, and he wanted to enjoy the party too. Tahoe Girl and Token were not shy about touching the belly and they got to feel him kick right away! It was really sweet.

I know The Group doesn’t hang out as much as we used to, but when we have nights like this I’m reminded of just how much fun we can have. I think it’s encouraging that we’re all settling down, and we could have a fun night that didn’t involve tons of drinking. It was just good ol’ fashioned perverted humor at it’s finest!

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 Token Gay Couple, Tahoe Couple, me, Monica, Older Bro & Wife

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 This last picture was taken right after Tahoe Guy farted. Well, he claims that the chair made a farting noise. Either way we were all cracking up. I love how Older Bro’s Wife had absolutely no idea what was going on.

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We had such a great night, and I hope to repeat it again this summer when Chandler and Monica come home. I also need to get my own copy of Cards Against Humanity. Have you played this game?

 

TTUT-Tahoe Girl’s Grad Party

Christine: Ritchie, we have talked about this. You’re eight years old. We live in Los Angeles. You have to learn how to swim.
Ritchie: Why?
Christine: Because, honey, you can’t keep going to pool parties telling people you’re having your period. –The New Adventures of Old Christine

 with Impulsive Addict and Seriously Shawn.

Saturday was Tahoe Girl’s graduation pool party. She graduated from business school with her master’s degree, and we all got together to celebrate. Match actually had the time off and I was looking forward to watching him have fun. He was complaining a little bit on the way over about how he didn’t think he was capable of relaxing and having fun. I told him to not condemn a party before we even got there, but I promised we’d leave early and that for once, I would be the DD.
When we walked in the backyard, we saw that the party was in full swing, but it was definitely right up Match’s alley. He’s a sucker for outdoor games, and there was a game of beanbags going on. Tahoe Girl’s dad actually built his own, and Match is going to build a set for our yard. I would love that or a flat washers game set, which is the same idea, just a little smaller. TG’s dad also made a beer pong table, with cutouts for the cups. Match, Mr. I don’t want to party, didn’t leave the beanbag/beer pong area for hours! 🙂

I can’t tell you how great it was to watch Match having fun and letting loose for once. His job is so stressful, and he can get wound up pretty tight. It was refreshing to see him enjoying himself. He was the first one in the pool too.


He motivated me to go in, even though I was so self conscious. It’s only been 6 weeks since I gave birth, so my body is still a bit of a war zone. But I shook it off and had fun goofing off in the pool with my sweetie.

I spent a lot of time hanging out with my ladies.

We only seem to get together a lot in the summers, but when we do we have fun. All of the weirdness I had felt at the wedding was gone. I think it helped that I was DD. I’m really not emotionally ready to be drunk yet. I had fun visiting with the girls and watching the boys be complete goofballs. Sometimes it’s more fun people watching. The lack of hangover alone is worth it. 🙂

TTUT-The Wedding

Ross: Monica’s pregnant!
Joey: Oh, my…! Is that why you guys had to get married?
Monica: Guys! I’m not pregnant. –Friends

 with Impulsive Addict and Seriously Shawn.

Sunday was the wedding and I was trying to get over my nerves. I was really excited about the cute dress I’d found, and I’d actually managed to get my hair to cooperate and hold a curl. I was feeling great and looking forward to seeing our friends. My hubby was looking mighty fine and I was so happy he was able to come to the wedding with me.

My confidence was shattered in the first 5 minutes…in which Token Gay Guy (who I guess didn’t know about Roo, even though it was all over facebook and we’d messaged him) came up to me, patted my belly affectionately while saying, and how are you two? It was a complete shock to my system. Match looked at me in horror, TomBoy about fell over, and it was everything I could do not to fall to pieces right then and there.

Monica led me to the bathroom, where I was able to pull myself together while Match explained to Token about our loss. I refused to cry during the wedding. It was their day, it was a happy day, and I wouldn’t spoil it. I think it hurt even more because it was so unexpected from a close friend who we thought knew the story. I shook it off, and got back to the festivities.

It was so good to see my girls again. It’d been a whole year since the last time the four of us were together. I may have overindulged. But I think it was ok given the situation. We had fun, and slowly I started to loosen up. I found myself talking about Roo a lot though. I was happy when I did, but I worried later that I made people uncomfortable. Match said no one seemed to mind.

I also may have freaked out a complete stranger in the bathroom. She was very pregnant, and I just started blabbing away about labor, and birth and how it’s all very exciting. Then of course she asked me how old my baby was, and I had to say that she had died. I felt terrible because I must have seemed 3 shades of crazy to this woman. I just feel a connection with other mothers, especially pregnant women. If I’d had my filter on, I never would have said a word. But oh well, hopefully I didn’t freak her out too badly. I was really upbeat and happy and told her that pregnancy is amazing and to enjoy every minute.

The rest of the night was spent dancing and having fun. The bride and groom looked amazing, and their wedding vows were beautiful.Check out that over the top dress! She rocked it, and she was glowing all night.

Monica and I grabbed her for a picture, and I think she was afraid we were going to knock her down in our drunken giddiness. We managed to keep her upright!

 

Match was able to relax a bit and enjoy himself with cohiba cigars and hanging out with friends.

The group tried to convince us to head to the dance club where the post party was, but we opted to go back to the inlaws. I’m so glad we did because I woke up just a little hung over, instead of drastically, as I would have been had I gone out.

I’m hoping to see more of the group while everyone is in town. I’m happy to report that we still had fun together, and they have nothing but love for us both. It felt good to be a part of that again. I did cry the whole drive home, but I think I just needed to let it out. Match was amazing and held me close, made sure I drank lots of water before bed, and cuddled me to sleep. Now that beats the hell out of a night at the club.

Butterflies About Seeing Friends Again

We are heading to a wedding this weekend, and I have nervous butterflies over it. It will be the first time I’ve seen any of our friends in “The Group” since we lost Roo. We’ve been growing apart from some of them for awhile. They’re just not in the same place as we are. A lot of them love to party it up and drink every weekend, while Match and I prefer mellow nights at home. They’re not looking to move forward and grow up, while Match and I can’t wait to start a family.

I’m worried about how I’ll be, and that I won’t be fun anymore.  Losing Roo changed me to my core, and I know I will never be exactly the same as I was. I don’t wish to be either. I just hope I still enjoy being around the group. I can’t wait to see Chandler and Monica though. Monica has been so supportive, even all the way in Scotland. We’ve talked about everything in detail, and she’s been an ear to listen. Tahoe Couple on the other hand…well we didn’t even hear from them when everything happened, and they live just an hour away from us. I talked to her yesterday and she didn’t mention our loss once. She just talked about mundane, superficial things, and all I wanted to do was hang up the phone. I know some people don’t know how to react to tragedy, and like to pretend it didn’t happen. I just don’t know if I care to spend much time with those people.

So wish us luck. The wedding is for Chandler’s older brother. It’s so nice that they invited us, even though we’re not that close. It’ll be good food, drinks, and probably some dancing. I’m hoping to get into the spirit of things. I love a good wedding, where it seems like you fall in love with your partner all over again. I think we’ll have fun, and we’ll dance and enjoy ourselves. But I don’t think we’ll be getting hammered, or playing drinking games until the wee hours of the night. I’m pretty sure we’ll head home early for some snuggle time and a comfy bed. Now that sounds like a good time to me!