Richard: So, you look great. Monica: Right. Richard: No you do. You… just… Monica: What? Richard: Youâ€™ve got panties stuck to your leg. Monica: (removes them) Thatâ€™s because I-I was just grabbing some things out of the dryer, and itâ€™s static cling. Or maybe itâ€™s just that God knew Iâ€™d be running into you and saw an opportunity. Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â –Friends
Saturday was Geeky’s big birthday bash. I met up with Geeky, Firefighter Chic, and Stylist Girl and Geeky and Stylist’s place. GC let me borrow one of her dresses (she has hundreds and they are all so pretty!) and then Stylist helped me fix my hair. Geeky’s boyfriend, the only guy, was teasing Stylist for having a tackle box full of makeup to cover the acne of an entire freshman class. That guy is funny and also a great sport for being the only girl with a ton of women. We had some champagne and then Geeky’s bf took pictures of us before we headed out.
Wasting time with the wrong person is just time wasted. And when you do move on and find your right person, believe me, you’re not going to wish you had gotten to spend more time with Stinky the Time-Waster or Freddy Can’t -Remember-to-Call. -From the book, He’s Just Not That Into You
He’s Just Not That Into You comes out in February! I’m excited, because I read and loved this book a few years ago. The cast is all star, including Jennifer Aniston and Drew Barrymore to name a few. I think for all of my avid readers, and for any single ladies, or ladies dating a guy that doesn’t seem to be that sprung on them, this is THE movie to see. I can’t wait to blog about how it is, and to see what you guys thought of it as well.
Before meeting Match, I was still skeptical of the book. While I did think there were some very valid points, I thought surely my (insert flavor of the month’s name here) is different. Of course, inevitably I’d come to realize that in fact, flavor of the month really was, just not that into me. We always know it, deep down, yet we try to ignore the facts. I even blogged about Potential Guy being not that into me months back, and even after my blog, I went back to him for a little bit. Why do we do these things to ourselves ladies?
So now, being with Match, I’m realizing just how true all of that is. When a guy is into you, you know it. There is absolutely no question about it.
We all have emotional boundaries that we set for ourselves but, all too often, we cross them. With authority and repetition, we can train animals to think and act a certain way. What about when it comes to ourselves? Can we train our emotions to sit and stay?-Marin, Men in Trees
Sunday made it exactly one week since I had last spoken to Birthday Twin. One week with not so much as a drunk dial or a text message. I was proud of myself for staying strong and waiting for him. The last time we talked, he told me that when he gets his anxiety attacks he withdraws from everyone, and that it isn’t personal. He said that when I don’t hear from him to please not be upset, and it has nothing to do with me. That doesn’t stop me from being so frustrated I could scream. It doesn’t stop me from missing him when he’s gone.
I went to church alone Sunday morning, it was only my second time going. I felt that familiar empty feeling when I watched as the couples came in, two by two. I had so much fun with BT being there last week and it really bugged me that I cared so much. I hate it when I start getting down about being alone when there are so many great things about being single. I love my independence, my freedom to do whatever I want for the day. Still, as I sat there I looked at couples holding hands, or husbands absentmindedly rubbing their wives necks while the preacher talked and I just couldn’t help thinking, I want that. I have this fabulous life, and I just want someone to share it with. I don’t think that’s much to ask. I don’t need a boyfriend, I just want one.
Practically all the relationships I know are based on a foundation of lies and mutually accepted delusion.-Samantha, Sex and the City
So Sunday for once I was the one to miss a call from Birthday Twin, instead of the other way around. He asked me to go hiking with him, but by the time I got the message it was evening. He came over and proceeded to pamper me. I think he reads my mind sometimes because I really wanted to see him. We snuggled up in bed and he gave me a back rub while I read out loud from a book to him. We were being ridiculously cute, I must admit. Then we laid down and rubbed each other’s back and just talked. I love how we lay and talk face to face. There’s something so intimate about it. It usually starts out with us talking about life, and then we inch closer and closer till our noses are touching, and then we kiss. I love how we sort of gravitate to each other.
The thing about plans is they don’t take into account the unexpected, so when we’re thrown a curve ball, whether its in the O.R. or in life, we have to improvise. Of course, some of us are better at it than others. Some of us just have to move on to plan B, and make the best of it. And sometimes what we want is exactly what we need. But sometimes, sometimes what we need is a new plan.-Meredith, Grey’s Anatomy
After my unbelievable hangover and remorse filled morning, Reality Check and I spent a great day together being girly. We went shopping and then hung out poolside and later had dinner. We talked about guys and I told her everything that had happened with the Potential Guy. She pointed out that I was pretty quick to judge him, and that even though things were confusing, it all stemmed from both of us being scared of a possible relationship. She said we both approached everything with the best of intentions, but ended up pushing each other away in our efforts to avoid hurt. So while we sat poolside, I texted PG that I would like to hang out in person, and talk, and maybe give the new start a try. We ended up talking on the phone and he said he was busy all weekend. He said that I was confusing, and he wasn’t sure about all of this. But he didn’t say no. He said that he was going to approach it with caution, and that he’d think about it. It was a good talk, and I felt better after it was over. I realized something after the horrible incident with Off Limits. I realized that PG was a guy who genuinely wanted to get to know me, and wasn’t interested in using me. We rushed things at first, and now he was trying to see what kind of person I was. And because he wasn’t all over me, I freaked out. I am so used to guys looking at me just as an object that I couldn’t see his actions for what they were, which was sincere. So we’ll see where that goes. I’m not sure anything will happen, but it was nice to talk to him again and tell him that I appreciated how sweet he’s been to me.