Last night, Piglet’s godparents babysat Piglet so we could go out on the town. We had a sleepover at their house, and then Geeky’s husband acted as our chauffeur so we could both drink and relax. I was nervous about leaving Piglet, because we’ve never had anyone else put him to bed before. I had no reason to worry though! Piglet loves his godparents and they are so good with him. Geeky texted me that he went right down for bed, no crying or fussing. We were so proud of that little boy! It was so much easier to relax knowing that he wasn’t sad that we were gone.
After dinner, we went out for drinks at the bar we went to on our wedding night. We had hoped to play shuffleboard, but it was full. We did have fun playing with the putting green. Somehow I managed to get a couple in, even though I was pretty buzzed! After our round of golf, Fire Guy picked us up and took us back to their house.
We sat around their firepit, chatting and laughing, and drinking way too much wine. I overdid it and was extremely hung over this morning. I also may have passed out for a brief minute on their great dane! But we had such a good time, and I’m so lucky to have such a great best friend! She even got up in the morning bright and early with Piglet, and let me go back to bed to sleep it off! She’s amazing!! I can’t wait until they have a little one of their own so we can return the favor!
Joey: [To Rachel] Look, turning thirty is not that big a deal.
Ross: Oh really? Is that how you felt when you turned thirty?
[Flashback to Joey’s thirtieth birthday]
Joey: Why God, why?! We had a deal. Let the others grow old, not me! -Friends
For my 30th birthday, I had originally dreamed up big plans of going on a group camping trip with a bunch of friends. Then reality set in, and I realized that camping with a 4 month old just didn’t sound that relaxing to me. So instead, I opted to spend the day with my best gal pal Geeky. She came over and took me out to lunch, and my friends from church came over to watch Piglet. It was the first time I’ve left him for that long, and his first time with babysitters. It felt so freeing to be able to leave the house without a diaper bag!
We enjoyed a yummy lunch of tapas and drinks. I had all of one drink and I felt wasted for the next hour! I’m such a cheap date. It felt good to let my hair down, and I loved spending one on one time with Geeky. We talked about just about everything, and how excited she is that she and her hubby have made the decision to start a family. I am so happy for them, and I cannot wait to help plan her future baby shower!
After lunch we wandered over to a fun little boutique and did some shopping. Of course I ended up buying things for Piglet. I missed him!! It made my heart happy to see that when we got back, Piglet was smiling and seemed perfectly content with his babysitters. It makes me feel good about future me time, and a lot less guilty.
Geeky got to spend some quality time with her godson when we got back, and he of course hammed it up for her. It was a low key, mellow way to ring in my 30s.
My 20s were all about crazy parties and all kinds of shenanigans. Now I’m happy with some good food and great company. Unlike many people out there, 30 is not a number I’ve feared. I’ve actually been looking forward to this milestone birthday for quite awhile. I think my grandma put it best when she said that I’m entering the wonder years. I’m old enough to be comfortable with who I am, but not so old that my body is failing me. I have quality friendships, not just fair weather flighty friends. I live in a lovely home (not a tiny, messy apartment like in my 20s) with my wonderful husband and our amazing son. I am so happy with life in this moment, and I am looking forward to where this decade takes me. So hello 30s. I’m so glad you’re here!
3. Monica & Chandler getting to meet our little guy, and moving just an hour away from us!
4. My aunt coming to visit from Arizona and meeting her grand nephew.
5. Lunch meetups with my Bestie Geeky. We met up and took Piglet for a walk and then lunch in the park. She also bought him this adorable Woody outfit while she and her husband were on a trip to New York. It’s so cute!!
6. Piglet turning 2 months old, and growing up so healthy and strong. Taking him to the potty and the funny little looks he gets on his face when we practice EC make me smile!
7. Our decision to go to Oregon. I struggled with my parents and vented my frustrations here. They’ve since made more of an effort to Skype, and are really trying to connect with Piglet from a distance. Match has some vacation time in early August, and we decided that a trip to Oregon would be a welcome relief from the heat. Piglet is so little still, and he sleeps really well in the car. I’ve been taking note of advice on traveling with littles, and I think we’ll do ok, especially if we take our time, and maybe leave in the night. I feel like a weight has been lifted from my chest. My parents are finally going to meet my baby!
8. Match withdrawing his application from the dangerous city police job. We discussed it at length and ultimately it just wasn’t the right fit for our family. He has an application with the town we live in, and also one just 15 minutes away. Keep your fingers crossed he gets hired on with one of them!
9. This man makes me smile so big. Having him offer to watch Piglet so that I can go to the gym and have some mommy time today was amazing. I love that I didn’t have to ask, and that he was all about having some quality father/son time with Piglet. Have I mentioned how much I love that man?
10. My beautiful family-these two are my world, and I am so grateful every month, every day, every moment that I have them!
[Barney tries to ask the bus driver to drive to the hospital where Lily is giving birth]
Sir, this man is having a baby tonight. Instead of going to St Marcus Hospital, we’re going to Buffalo – and I’ve seen women from there, the city’s aptly named. Look, I’m a screw-up; I’m having something special with this girl Quinn and I ruined it. But this guy [gestures to Marshall], he’s done everything right. He’s been loving and devoting since he was 18 years old. There are a few truly great people on this planet and he is one of them. He deserves to be at the birth of his son. So what do you say? -Barney, How I Met Your Mother
This is me at 7:30am on Monday the 13th, in triage at the hospital. I joked with Match that I was probably the happiest non-medicated woman in labor ever. I was so so excited that it was happening-the day to meet our son was finally here! I was checked in triage, and already dilated to 3cm when we got there, with contractions ( back labor, oww) 2 minutes apart. They had us walk the halls for an hour to get things moving. While we were walking the halls, we ran into the nurse who helped us grieve and deliver Roo. She remembered us, and she made sure that she was the nurse for my delivery this time. She was incredible, just like before. It felt good to have someone there that was familiar that I trusted.
After the hour of walking, I was dilated to 4.5 and officially admitted. We moved into the birthing room, and I was given an IV and fluids. At this point contractions started getting intense. They asked me what my birth plan was, and Match and I told them I didn’t want any IV drugs, and epidural only if absolutely necessary. The nurses were so supportive of the plan, and good about respecting it and not offering me any pain management. They were encouraging and encouraged me to move around to help with the pain. Rocking seemed to work the best, as well as quiet, low moaning.
Eventually the pain got so bad that I couldn’t stay standing, and I got back into bed. Laying on my side felt the best, and holding onto the bed rails. Match rubbed my lower back and offered encouragement. At one point the nurses threw an oxygen mask over my head because I was breathing too fast.
The midwife and doctor came in to do another cervical check, and they realized why I was in so much pain. In just a few hours, I went from 3cm to almost fully dilated. Four hours from the time I was admitted I was already pushing! Everything seemed to be going well, and then all hell broke loose. I was pretty out of it from the pain, and trying to meditate through it, so I wasn’t very aware of what was going on. Match said he’d been watching the fetal heartrate monitor, and every time I’d have a strong contraction or I’d push, Piglet’s heart rate would drop really low. At one point, it got to 55, and that’s when our room exploded into chaos. The nurse and midwife had called for reinforcements, and suddenly our room was filled with people.
Then a doctor said to me that things were about to get really crazy, and to just close my eyes and stay calm. Then he told Match that they were going to perform an emergency C-section and that he’d have to stay behind, because they were putting me under. I started crying, and felt like a huge failure. The doctors and nurses reassured me that it wasn’t me, and that I’d done everything right, but Piglet’s cord was wrapped around his body and he was in distress. Match kissed me, and I told him I loved him and to call his mom. I didn’t want him to be alone. Match told me later that after I left, he just collapsed into a chair, bawling his eyes out. A nurse came in and handed him scrubs, and said just in case they let him in after all.
Meanwhile I was wheeled into a room full of people and commotion. My nurse held me up while they put in the spinal tap. At this point Piglet’s heart rate went back up, and another doctor came in. She said they were going to try one last attempt to get him out vaginally, and it was unorthodox, but it might work. She said they’d use forceps, and try once. Then sudddenly Match was there, because the baby was no longer in as much distress. I was so relieved that he was able to be there next to me, and they said I could stay awake.
The spinal tap kicked in, and then they asked me to try to push, even though I was numb from the chest down. I tried so hard, but Piglet was too far up the canal at that point, and it was so hard to push when I was so numb. That’s when the other doctor pushed him back inside, and they started in on the C-section. They put a screen over our heads, and Match and I just held hands and starred into each other’s eyes. It only took a few seconds, and he was out. Match said at this point the whole room seemed to calm down. For me, it was the longest moments of my life, waiting to hear Piglet cry. I kept saying, “Is he ok? Why isn’t he crying?” when suddenly we heard the most beautiful sound-our son’s first cry.
Match just broke down and started sobbing, and I did too. I looked at him and said, “We finally got our baby. He’s here!” I told him to talk to him, because he’d recognize our voices. Sure enough, when we said, “It’s ok Wyatt, we’re right here” he immediately stopped crying and looked around the room for us. Then Match was able to go over to him and cut the cord, while I was being stitched up. It was torture not being able to see him in those first minutes, and I just held out my hand to him.
After what felt like years, they placed him on my chest for skin to skin for a few seconds (and there is not one picture of it, and I’m so sad about that!), before whisking him away to be cleaned up, weighed and monitored. Match was able to go with him, and I was wheeled off to recovery. I had to wait for the spinal tap to clear my system before they brought him back to me and I could hold him properly. That hour was one of the longest of my life, aside from waiting for his first cry.
The first person to come into the recovery room was my mother in law, looking for us. I’ve never been so happy to see her in my life! She gave me a huge hug and I bawled into her shoulder. Then my son and my husband were finally brought to my side. I was able to hold him for the first time, and the feeling of joy I felt was indescribable.
The first moments with my family.
The rest of the day is sort of a blur. We were wheeled into our maternity room, and my inlaws were able to spend some time with their grandson.
Later in the day, Geeky stopped by to meet her Godson. I was so glad she was able to meet him that first day.
The rest of the night we just spent getting to know our son, and dealing with the frustrations of C-section postpartum. I couldn’t get up or help out at all, and that first night was so painful. But the next day got a lot better once they removed the IV and catheter and I was able to walk. I’ll share more about my hospital stay in another post. Sorry this was long, but I wanted to write it down so I’d remember every moment of my son’s birthday.
He was born at 12:12pm, May 13th, a mere 5 hours from when I was admitted to the hospital. He weighed 6 lbs, 3 oz, and his arrival into this world was incredibly scary. I remember just feeling a calmness, and knowing that even through the scary moments, everything would turn out alright. This baby we would get to take home. I still can’t believe he’s ours! I’ll leave you with some ridiculously cute baby photos. I am pretty sure there has never been a more beautiful little newborn. I know I’m bias, but you gotta admit, Match and I made one cute kid!
I can’t believe I only posted once last week. It’s been such a busy past few days, prepping the house and getting everything ready. It took me a full day to recoop from the baby shower. It was such an awesome day. I felt so loved and so blessed to have such amazing family and friends there to celebrate our little guy. Prepare for picture overload! Tahoe Girl brought her nice digital SLR and spent the day being my photographer. My hostess, Geeky, outdid herself with the decorations.
My beautiful hostess Geeky! She did such a great job. Everyone had fun with the games, and she kept things running smoothly. She’s a pro!
Tomboy showed up as a complete surprise. She’s currently in graduate school in Oregon, and she had just visited us the week before. I didn’t even know she was still in the state. It was such a great surprise!
Chandler’s Older Bro’s Wife and I, showcasing our baby bumps. I still can’t get over the fact that she’s due just 28 days after me, also with a boy! The next generation of The Group in the making!
Just a few of The Group ladies. Tomboy, OB Wife, me and Tahoe Girl
I loved the onesie decorating station. If I hadn’t been so busy socializing, I would have made one myself. Hopefully I get a chance before Piglet arrives. My guests had great senses of humor while decorating these!
About to open gifts, after I stuff my face with this cupcake.
This was part of the crib bedding set. The bumper is actually going to line the window seat in the nursery, not the crib, since it’s not that safe. I can’t wait to put it all up. Stay tuned for a nursery reveal in a few weeks!
Me and my MIL. If you look closely, the onesie says “I Was Worth the Wait” and it made me bawl. As you all know, this little guy has been a long time coming. It was a very sweet gift. She also got us our digital monitor (score!) because she knows how nervous we’re going to be as new parents. But the best gift? That would have to be an audio book that she recorded, along with my FIL of them reading Good Night Moon to Piglet. There was not one dry eye in the room when I opened that one.
I know it’s a terrible picture of me, but it captured the moment. When I showed it to Match, he started crying too. Such an awesome gift. Now I need to see if my parents can send one too, so he can listen to both sets of grandparents reading to him!
I had to share this picture because I love the look on my face. I think Piglet kicked really hard when that picture was taken, and I thought I was going to pee myself!
Finally resting my poor swollen tootsies, and visiting with Mrs. Makeup. It was so sweet of her to make the drive! I love that we’ve been friends our entire lives pretty much. I’ve known her since kindergarten. Hard to believe we’re both mommies now!
Good Girl brought one of the twins, and he was having all kinds of fun.
Thanking Geeky for doing such a great job. It really was the best day!
Me at the end of the day. I was exhausted but so happy. What a perfect way to celebrate our rainbow baby. I felt so much love, and there were a few times throughout the day that I could feel Roo’s presence with me. I like to think that she was happy too.