Couple Goals: What To Look For In A Partner

If you’re frantically searching for ‘the one,’ and every date seems to end in disaster, you may be worried that the perfect partner doesn’t exist. It can be very hard to be single when you grow up watching Disney movies and your friends start getting married and settling down. The truth is that there’s no appointed time to meet your match, and sometimes, it takes longer than you hoped. You may feel like it’s better to be with somebody who isn’t quite right than being alone, but you should never settle for something that doesn’t make you happy. If you’re searching for your soulmate, here are some signs that you’re onto a good thing.

 

You feel calm and at ease

It’s very common to be anxious and nervous when you go on a first date, but if you’re in a relationship and you still feel on edge, this could be a sign that this person isn’t the one for you. Look for a person who makes you feel calm, relaxed, and at ease. You want to be able to be yourself around them and to feel like you can sit in silence without having to try and think of a conversation starter or come up with a joke they’ll find hilarious. If you can have as much fun doing nothing as you can by arranging an elaborate date, this is always a good sign.

 

Your partner is loyal to you

When you’re dating, it’s common to see a lot of people at the same time, but if you choose to take the next step and go exclusive, you expect your partner to show you the same level of respect as you show them. Trust is so important in a relationship. You should never feel like you have to launch an infidelity investigation if your partner doesn’t answer your text straight away or they say they’re working late. If you suspect that they’re cheating or you can’t rest when you don’t know where they are, this suggests that the relationship isn’t as strong and stable as it should be.

 

You feel confident

Confidence has such a strong influence on how we feel and how we behave. If you’ve found a partner who lifts you up when you’re feeling down and makes you feel like the most special person in the room regardless of where you are, it’s worth giving your relationship a go. It can be so damaging to be with somebody who knocks your confidence and makes you question who you are and what you’re doing. Be with a person who acts like your cheerleader and wants the best for you.

Many of us dream of finding our perfect match from an early age. Sadly, we can’t all enjoy the Disney fairytale, but if you believe that there is somebody out there for you, don’t lose hope because you’ve had a few bad dates. Look for a partner who will support and encourage you, stay loyal to you, and love you for who you are. Don’t settle for somebody who isn’t right just because you don’t want to be single. You deserve better, so don’t give up searching just yet.

Date Day

On Veteran’s Day, Match and I both had the day off. Piglet really loves his daycare, so we decided to let him go for the day, and take a day just for us. I know it sounds selfish, but it’s so rare that we get the chance to go on dates.

We spent the morning “window shopping” checking out some houses for sale in our town. Then we went for a short hike out in the country.

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After the hike, we headed to lunch.

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Then it was back to the house to relax for a little bit, and then picked up Piglet early from daycare. It was such an awesome day, and it made me wish every day could be this way. It was a much needed boost for our relationship, which has been under work related stress for the past few weeks. We promised we’d start setting aside more time for dates and couple time. It’s so easy to forget how important that can be in a marriage.

 

Dating Advice

Yes. It is true. I, Michael Scott, am signing up with an online dating service. Thousands of people have done it, and I am going to do it. I need a username, and… I have a great one. “lilkidlover”. That way people will know exactly where my priorities are at. -Michael, The Office

A few of my single friends have asked me where the nice guys are. I always point them to the best dating sites according to Consumer Rankings. I know there are still many people who are skeptical about online dating. But to me it saves you a step.

When you go out to a bar or meet a guy through friends, you don’t know whether or not he wants kids. You don’t know if he’s seeking a long term commitment or a fling. With online dating, you can weed out the guys that don’t have the same goals as you, and save your makeup for the guys that do. I know I personally hate first dates, and that awkward getting to know you period. When I met Match online, it was like we’d skipped to the third or fourth date. It was still exciting but I didn’t feel that queasy, anxious feeling like I had on so many other dates.

If you’re single and you’re tired of meeting the typical clowns at bars, then you should give online dating a try. You’ve got nothing to lose, and you could wind up meeting your soul mate!

Dating Can Be a Real Slap in the Face

Sweets: Dr. Saroyan, I’m having some serious problems with Daisy. Can I ask your advice?
Cam: No.
Sweets: No, really.
Cam: Really. I have a sixteen year old, and believe me, when it comes to dating advice, I am batting a red hot zero.
Sweets: But you’ve been through this like a million times yourself!
Cam: Did you just call me old? –Bones

About a week and a half ago I was approached via email by a reader who was in need of some dating advice. At first I was afraid to open it. I get a lot of spam from supposed readers who really just want to plug their acne treatment reviews or some other product. Instead I was pleasantly surprised that it was a real reader asking for help. I found his problem pretty interesting, so I thought I’d share our exchange with you all. What advice would you give K?

Dear Date Girl,
My name is K and I discovered your website today while googling for dating advice. Not sure if you can offer advice on my situation, but I thought I’d give it a try since I was too embarrassed to tell my friends about it.  If you have the time and the interest, I describe the incident below.  Any advice you can provide would be greatly appreciated.  Thanks in advance.

I met a really attractive and intelligent woman at a party a few weeks ago.  It was a public event at an art gallery.  She was a high school teacher in her early thirties and seemed very educated and sophisticated. We had been talking for about a half hour and really seemed to develop a great rapport. We had even made tentative plans to meet for coffee sometime.

Then, things suddenly went downhill. There was a pause in the conversation and I commented that she had a “really nice, hourglass figure”.  I thought she would take it as a compliment but instead she became deeply offended.  She said, “Excuse me?  Why are you talking about my figure?”  I went into damage control mode and tried to clarify my comments but I think I only exacerbated things as she rolled her eyes and shook her head.  She told me I was being “inappropriate” and with a look of complete disgust, WHAP!, she slapped my face and departed.

As I stood there alone rubbing my cheek, I was trying to figure out why she was so upset.  It seemed like a harmless comment to me but maybe I don’t understand women as well I should.  I do have her email address.  Do you think I should send her an apology note or should I interpret the slap in the face as a definitive way of saying she wants no further contact?

Dear Surprised Slapped,

First of all thanks for visiting my site. I’d be more than happy to
offer my perspective. Let me start by saying I’m so sorry that happened to you. That must have been mortifying. I for one, would not have been offended. I would have been flattered. Then again, I can see where she might have been bothered and thought you were only interested in her physically. Still, a slap in the face is a major overreaction. I would say there’s no harm in an apology email, as long as you realize she may not respond. I wouldn’t send
more than one.

I’d also really look at this as maybe a sign that this is someone you
may not want to date. If she’s that easily offended, think what could
happen on a date? She sounds a little bit uptight.

All the best and good luck out there. Dating can be rough!