The Day I Married My Match, Part 2

Four years ago, I was just a guy who had a crush on a girl who had a boyfriend. And I had to do the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do, which was to wait. And don’t get me wrong, I flirted with her…I just had little moments with a girl who saw me as a friend. And a lot of people told me I was crazy to wait this long for a date with a girl who I worked with, but I think that even then I knew that I was waiting for my wife.-Jim, The Office

Let me start by saying, wow! I’m overwhelmed by your comments. I’m so happy to be able to share the most important day of my life with you all. You guys have been a part of it from the beginning! 🙂 Second, this is perhaps the longest post I’ve written yet, and I apologize. There were just so many amazing moments that I had to share with you!

Now that we’re past the tearfest, it’s time for the PARTY! Ok, I won’t lie, there are still some tear jerker moments. Like when Match’s Mom and my Mom gave their toasts. Then the first dance, and the father/daughter dance. But I’m getting ahead of myself.

Let’s start with our grand entrance back to at the reception room. We were at the golf course for the ceremony and they had a golf cart ready for us to drive back up to the reception. Typically the groom drives the cart. But you all know I’m not your typical girl. So of course I drove it.

The reception room has a deck so all of our guests were leaning over the railing cheering us on as we drove up.  Then the DJ had everyone go inside the reception room and wait for our grand entrance.

We walked in to the song, “Ain’t That a Kick in the Head” by Dean Martin.

I wish I could remember what Match whispered to me that I found so funny.

I was so overwhelmed by the amount of love that just emanated from the room. I just kept saying, “Oh wow, oh how beautiful!” I can’t even describe what an amazing feeling it is to be surrounded by all of your loved ones in the same room, all standing and clapping for you. It was truly incredible.

I was so touched that so many of my friends and family took off time from their jobs to make it to the wedding. There were hugs all around as we finally got to see all of our loved ones. Right after that our coordinator ushered us over to the buffet table for food. I loved our day of coordinator. She came with the venue and she did such a great job of keeping the day flowing. She made sure we ate too! We are one of the rare and lucky couples that actually got to eat on our wedding day. Match even got seconds!

I know it doesn’t look that appetizing in the picture but I swear it was so good. I wish I’d had a better appetite. I was just too excited to eat. Plus my friend who warned us about the sweetheart’s table was right-everyone stares at you while you eat!

Then it was time for the toasts. My mom was the first to make her speech, and I was blown away with how calm and collected she was. I told her afterwards she should speak in public more often! She talked about the first time I brought Match home to meet my parents. She said watching us cook in the kitchen together, she knew he was the one for me. Cooking and eating are a big deal in my family and the way we worked so effortlessly together, she knew we were made for each other.

MIL was next to give her toast. It started off shaky, because she definitely doesn’t like to speak in front of people or be the center of attention. She started by talking about how when you have a child you want the very best for them. You want to make sure that as they mature they make the right choices. She said that she has no doubt that Match made the right choice, and will continue to make the right choices because he has me by his side.

I was trying to keep it together in this picture. I started bawling when she finished with that line. We hugged and there wasn’t a dry eye in the house.

Match got up, a little begrudgingly, because like his mom, he hates being the center of attention. I think he did a great job. He thanked everyone for being a part of our special day. He said he couldn’t be happier and that he was absolutely the luckiest man in the world.

After the toasts it was time for our first dance. It was sweet, but I have to admit, I wish we’d picked a faster song. I love our song, Then by Brad Paisley, but it felt like it went on for a long time. I think that was just because everyone was starring at us and I’m a terrible slow dancer. I kept laughing and saying I was going to step on his shoes. He kept saying, “I lead, not you!” Hehehe.

The second dance was the father/daughter dance with my Pops. I couldn’t help it-I bawled like a baby. We chose the song, “You’re Gonna Miss This” by Trace Atkins.

After a few minutes, Match and his mom joined us on the dance floor, along with his Sis Travel Girl and her dad, and my Mom and my brother. By then I think a lot of our guests were crying along with us.

Then it was time to celebrate! Everyone wiped their eyes and got down to boogie on the dance floor.

Everyone mingled and danced and it felt like the two families and all the groups of friends had known each other for years.

Birthday Twin made it along with his long time girlfriend. They seemed to enjoy themselves, though frankly I didn’t spend much time with them. BT and I have grown so distant over the last two years. Still it was nice that he was there and they had a good time.

Best Friend was there-he made the trip all the way from San Diego. I was thrilled he could be there. After our years of friendship and our crazy, messy history it’s so nice to still call him my friend. He gave me a big hug and said, “You got your M.R.S!” He used to tease me in college that I was going to school for my M.R.S. He said he was so glad I found such a good guy and that I truly deserved to be this happy.

We had a fun moment on the deck where Best Friend, Brazil’s Hubby, The Enabler, and Old Married Hubby convinced me to smoke a cigar.

Before I knew it, it was time to cut the cake. The coordinator told me how we cut the cake represented how we work together as a team. This was hilarious because I couldn’t seem to cut the cake, and after a minute Match said, oh let me do it. So I guess that’s how we work. He does everything for me! 😉

Immediately after cake we had the bouquet and garter tosses. This was another classic moment-my cousin’s girlfriend didn’t just catch the bouquet, she swiped it. Then she whispered to me, “It better work!” It was adorable and I couldn’t be happier for her. Of course I felt bad for Tahoe Girl who really wanted to catch the bouquet. If you look closely, that’s her hand desperately reaching for it. She knows her and Tahoe Guy will get married. They’ve been together for 9 years! I think he’s just waiting for the right time since all of the couples in our group are getting married and he wants her to have her own moment. Hopefully next year he’ll propose!

The garter toss was a surprise as well. I’ve always been to weddings where the guys refuse to catch the garter. By the way don’t I look completely in pain in this picture? Like he’s biting my leg and not the garter? Hehehe. I was just really embarrassed.

Best Friend reached out and snatched the garter so fast I didn’t even see it happen!

The rest of the night is kind of a blur. There was tons of dancing and laughter. At one point my uncles tossed me in the air. I really wish someone had captured that on camera. At the end of the night the DJ got everyone to crowd around us while we danced together. It was another moment where my breath caught in my throat as I felt all of the love surrounding us. It was the perfect way to end a perfect day.

Never Worry a Bride the Night Before Her Wedding

Ted: [over the phone] Hello, Robin, it’s Ted.
Robin Scherbatsky: Oh, hi, Ted.
Ted: [repeats] Hello, Robin, it’s Ted.
Robin Scherbatsky: Hi, Ted. Sounds like you’re having fun.
Ted: Robin, have I ever told you that I have been vomit-free since ’93?
Robin Scherbatsky: Oh, listen Ted. I can’t really talk right… ’93? Dude, that’s impressive. –How I Met Your Mother

I’m getting the pictures back from the wedding tomorrow!! I will post them asap. While we wait, I figured I would regal you with a story of the night before the wedding and the morning of. The night before the wedding I remained surprisingly calm. A few of my close girlfriends came over: Couple Wife, Geeky, Monica and Tahoe Girl. We drank a little bit of wine and chatted. Couple Wife brought me an adorable hoodie and tank top to wear for the morning of. Here’s me in the hoodie (which says BRIDE on the front, and Bride to Be on the back, and I still wear on walks, haha):

After the girls left I went about my routine. Did my oily skin treatment, brushed my teeth, and went to bed like usual. I was actually able to drift off to sleep. Then I get a text message from Match, who was out with a few of the guys for a few “casual drinks”. Here’s what the text said:

I threw up sweetie. Love u

Whaaaa?? I sit straight up in bed fully awake, and full on freak out mode. Now here’s a note to all the future grooms out there. Never, EVER tell your bride to be that you just threw up the night before the wedding. I texted Chandler begging him to take Match home so he could sleep it off. I had images of a very hung over groom looking green instead of happy at the ceremony. Chandler messaged me back that he was fine and that they were dropping him off right then. I managed to get to sleep but I couldn’t help stressing a little bit. I wasn’t bridezilla stressed mind you, just a little bit worried. It’s so funny to look back on it now.

First thing the next morning Match texted me that he was fine and not at all hung over. Turns out he’d actually had some bad beer. TomBoy and her boyfriend (formerly known as Single Girl, see I changed it!) had met up with the rest of the guys for a drink since they got in late. She’d only had one beer, from the same pitcher as Match and they’d both thrown up. So I was able to breathe a bit easier knowing Match wouldn’t be hung over and grumpy for the wedding day.

That morning Match was having a boys breakfast at his parents house while I was having a girls breakfast at Tahoe Girl’s parents house. It was amazing! We had pancakes, hash browns, mimosas and coffee. I confess I wasn’t able to eat much but I did the best I could on my nervous stomach. I knew I wouldn’t be eating much for the rest of the day.

Baker Chic, Tahoe Girl, Me, Monica and TomBoy

After breakfast we headed to the bridal suite at the ceremony site. On the way over the girls cranked up some Britney Spears and we danced around and sang in the car.  The girls did a great job of keeping me distracted and not too nervous. We had dance music blasting the entire time I was getting my hair and makeup done by Stylist Girl. It really helped calm my nerves. I wasn’t scared nervous, just incredibly excited. This was it!

The champagne helped too!

Piece of advice for all the brides to be. Wear as comfy of clothes as possible right up until you squeeze into that dress. I opted for workout pants and these fabulous slippers.

The girls kept looking at me all dolled up and getting teary eyed. I told them to tell me something to make me laugh instead of cry and the first thing Tomboy said was, “Match loves to fart!” That had us giggling so hard we ended up crying anyways. 🙂

The girls helped me struggle into my dress and that’s when I really felt like a bride.  Here’s a sneak peek at the dress that doesn’t even begin to do it justice.

I’ll continue the rest of the story when I get the professional pictures. Stay tuned!

The Bachelor/Bachelorette Party

Barney: Alright, fine, the stripper at Stewart’s Bachelor Party was a 15.Ted: [Appalled] She was 15?Barney: A 15. Like in blackjack.Ted: As in, not sure whether you’d hit it?Barney: Exactly!Ted: Nice. –How I Met Your Mother

I’m BAaaaack. I had such an amazing Wedding Week but I have to say it’s good to be back. I’ve missed you all and can’t wait to catch up on your blogs. I promise I will tell you all about the wedding and post so many pictures you’ll be sick of it soon. But there’s so much I haven’t told you about yet and because I’m OCD and a Virgo, we have to go in order m’kay? 🙂 Oh and I’m waiting on the professional pics before I post pictures of our faces, so still 2 more weeks for that. Like you’re all just on pins and needles right? 😉

Let’s start with the pre-parties leading up to the wedding. First and foremost, the bachelor/bachelorette, or Jack and Jill party. The theme of the party was “Black and White or Animal Print, Classy or Classless”. There was so much to work with in that theme.

I decided that Match and I would go Zebra print and tie in both the black and white as well as animal print themes. I designed a little Groom to Be button for him, complete with ball and chain. I got him an adorable zebra tie and found some ribbon to match for myself. I also found the most adorable dress ever at Kohls. I definitely plan on wearing it again.

So here’s our complete ensemble:

I’m proud of all my friends-everyone played along with the theme.

Baker Chic was the hostess and she did an amazing job. From the adorable Bride and Groom Shotglasses:


To an awesome version of the NewlyWed game that she had me and Match play. I loved how everyone got in on the game. Everyone crammed into the living room and howled with laughter as I had to describe the craziest place we’ve ever done it.

I loved that even though there were distinct different groups of our friends there, everyone got along great. It felt like one big group of old friends and everyone actively participated in all the games.

Monica bought me the coolest gift-it’s a garter belt with a flask built in. I’m thinking I need to wear this regularly.

Chandler was put in charge of hats for when we played Presidents and Assholes. He did a great job and there was  a Woody hat, a Cookie Monster Hat, a Ducky hat,  and the most fabulous and most used, a beer hat.

Even Baker’s dog got a chance to wear it. He looks like he’s really enjoying it doesn’t he?

Or and least I forget, there was the I enjoy hat…

It was such a fun night. I was incredibly hung over but it was worth it. I guess towards the end of the night I just took off upstairs and passed out on Baker’s parent’s memory foam mattress. I have a tendency to do that. I’ll be partying hard and then sleep just hits me and I wander off. It’s kind of funny because one minute I’m the life of the party and the next minute I’m curled up in a ball on the couch sound asleep. I’m lucky no one has ever tried to draw on me or anything!!

I can’t wait until Token Gay Guys (they showed up towards the end of the night as a huge surprise, they were headed home from a trip to Wyoming and drove all night to see us!!) and Monica and Chandler have their parties next year. We started a trend for co-ed parties. Everyone had a great time!

Bachelor/ette Party Planning

Rachel: [to Monica] You’re going to love this cake! I got it from a bakery in New Jersey, Carino’s!
Monica: That place has the creamiest frosting! I used to hitchhike there when I was a kid!
Rachel: Well, they make make these great novelty cakes in different shapes; and if you give them a photo, they’ll copy it in icing!
Monica: Did you do a picture of Emma?
Rachel: On a cake shaped like a bunny!
Ross: Does this bakery by any chance bake erotic cakes, for bachelorette parties?
Rachel: What are you talking? -OH, MY GOD! They put my baby’s face on a penis!
[Everyone rushes to see the cake.]
Phoebe: Now it’s a party! –Friends

I think a lot of you won’t be surprised when I tell you that Match and I decided we wanted to have a co-Bachelor/Bachelorette party, or some call them a “Jack and Jill” party. We’re each other’s best friends and we don’t really like the all girls or all guys get togethers that much. Match might go bachelor paintballing one of these nights, and I may have some girls over for wine, but for the crazy partying, we prefer to be together.

My friend Baker Chic wanted to throw it, and has a ton of games and fun decorations planned for it. She won’t tell me the details but in almost all of them it will be a battle  of the sexes, or girls vs. guys. She also came up with this adorable theme: Black and White or Animal Print-Classy or Classless! Is that not so fun? There are so many different ways this can be interpreted and ways to make it fun. I’ve decided I want to use both parts of the theme, so I’m going with Zebra being that it’s animal print AND black and white. I’m on the hunt for my perfect outfit. I want something sexy and fun but not over the top. Plus keep in mind I’ll have my big hot pink “Bride to Be” sash on. I’m searching for a black skirt with zebra top, or maybe a zebra dress, though I seem to be striking out there. I also don’t want to spend very much on it.
Here are some that I’ve found online so far:

Do you love how the mannequin has sass? I’d pair this top with a black short skirt.

Also, here’s a few ideas I had for Match. He’s going to wear black dress pants, a black pinstripe button up shirt that makes him look so sexy, and we’re going to give him a hot pink button or something that says “Groom to Be”.

Btw I’d totally buy the coat too if he’d actually wear it, which he wouldn’t!

I told him I want to get him a hat and he was all on board with the idea. I think it’d be great if I could find him a Zebra tie as well.

What do you guys think? Any other suggestions for either of us, or places I can find these items for cheap?

The party is set for August 21st and I can’t wait! SoDid you have a bachelor or bachelorette party? Did you do a Jack and Jill party instead?

Post It Note Tuesday-Ready For August

Roy: [answers phone] Hello, IT. Have you tried turning it off and on again? … OK, well, the button on the side. Is it glowing? … Yeah, you need to turn it on. Err, the button turns it on. Yeah, you do know how a button works, don’t you? No, not on clothes.
[Moss’s phone rings. He answers it.]
Moss: Hello IT. Yuhuh. Have you tried forcing an unexpected reboot?
Roy: No, there you go, I just heard it come on. No, that’s the music you hear when it comes on. No, that’s the music you hear when… I’m sorry, are you from the past?
Moss: You see the driver hooks a function by patching the system call table so it’s not safe to unload it unless another thread is going to jump in there and do its stuff and you don’t want to end up in the middle of invalid laptop memory… Hello? –The IT Crowd

It’s the last week of July people! Let’s raise a PINT to the last Tuesday of the month.