If there’s one thing I’ve learned while I’ve been married, it’s that marriage takes work. It shouldn’t take so much effort that it feels draining, though. It’s the kind of work that you should enjoy and that keeps both of you happy. Rather than being a chore, it’s more like a hobby or passion you have to pay lots of attention to. I love working to keep our marriage alive and make sure we’re both happy. Plus, it’s not a one-sided thing, where only one of us is trying. A lot of people can feel unsure about how to keep their relationship fresh. I have some great tips that have worked for us that I would like to share with you.
Try New and Exciting Things
It’s so easy to get stuck in a rut, even if you’re not married. Going to work every day and coming home to do the same things might be tedious, but it’s also easier than the alternative. But if you want your marriage to be exciting, you need to get off your butt and try new things. Don’t let having kids stop you either!
We’re always getting out and about with our little boy. In fact, if anything, he pushes us to try new things more because we want to show him the world. You don’t have to go skydiving or bungee jumping. There are lots of new things to try that won’t put your life in danger. For us, it’s simply stepping out of our comfort zone. We plan to get a sitter (something we rarely do) and going to a hockey game.
Remember What Made You Fall in Love
Whenever I feel myself getting annoyed at Match (it happens to everyone!), I remind myself of why I fell in love with him. But I don’t just think about when we met and fell in love, I also consider all the ways I continue to love him. Whenever I watch him play with Piglet, or do the little things like fold laundry without me asking, or making me coffee just the way I like it, I fall in love just a little more. You have to keep in mind that both of you will change as your marriage grows. If you’re one of the lucky ones, your love will continue to evolve as both of you develop as individuals. Remembering what your partner loved about you is important too. Perhaps you’ve been searching ‘how to make him fall in love with me again’. Think back to those early days. You might discover that you’ve stopped doing the things you used to enjoy together.