Virginia: All college guys cheat when they’re in a long distance relationship. Why do you think I didn’t let your dad go off to college?
Jimmy: ‘Cuz he didn’t graduate high school?
Virginia: For your information, there are universities that advertise on late night television that are willing to overlook that. –Raising Hope
Saturday night Match and I hung out with a bunch of his deputy friends from work. Our first stop was dinner with one of our couple friends (We have so many couple friends now that it’s hard to keep thinking up nicknames!). It was her birthday so we went out to celebrate. I was on day 2 of a brutal cold that my dear hubby shared with me, so I wasn’t able to cuddle with the babies like I usually do. It was torture not being able to pick them up! I enjoyed our mellow evening with them, and would have stayed there longer, but we had a goodbye party for another coworker of Match’s later that night.
That group was a little more rowdy. We had fun drinking beers and joking around with them. I’ve never met that particular group, and it was nice to get to know the people Match spends a lot of his working hours with. I was getting along great with them all, when I noticed the female deputy was getting really cozy with the guy who was transferring departments. At one point I saw him put his hand on her thigh, and he was sitting awfully close. Earlier, she had been telling us about her husband, who wasn’t there that night. The guy also had a girlfriend, but from what he mentioned, it sounded like they were on the rocks. Either way, it didn’t sit well with me watching those two cozy up, knowing one was married, and the other in a committed relationship.
When we were alone for a minute, I told Match what I had seen. I felt bad, because I knew these were his coworkers that he really liked and respected. I liked them too, at first, but I’m not down to keep company with people who cheat. It’s really too bad, because she was one of the first female deputies who I thought was pretty cool at first. Match said he was disappointed as well, because as coworkers, he respects them both, but it is hard for him to respect them as individuals, knowing they’re cheating on their significant others. We both hoped we were wrong about what we were seeing, but as the night went on, there was a lot of leaning, and close talking, that seemed a lot more than friendly behavior.
Have you ever witnessed something like that? It was a first for me, and it made me super uncomfortable. I’m glad that the couples we are close to aren’t like that, and that Match was as bothered by it as I was. I couldn’t help but be glad that the guy was leaving the department, and the female deputy was on a different shift than Match. Not because I don’t trust him 100%, but because I think that cheaters are sneaky people. And if a person is willing to be sneaky and to hurt the person they’re supposed to be closest to, what does that say about their ethics in general? I don’t like the idea of Match working with people he can’t trust.