LEO Risks and Depressing Forums

Whenever I get depressed, I raise my hemlines. If things don’t change, I am bound to be arrested. –Ally McBeal

Tonight Match is doing some night training at academy and I’m spending the evening alone. It’s something I will definitely have to get used to since I know his job will require night shifts most of the time. I decided to log onto a police wife forum that I stumbled across. I think this was a mistake because it was filled with depressing stories and complaints. I realize that most people get on forums when they need someone to lean on, and people rarely talk about the happier side of life when they go somewhere to vent with others. I also realize that every marriage is different and every husband is different. It was still very hard to read about how many officers have died in the last year, how this is the one job where life insurance costs are completely necessary, and where so many marriages crumble. I think it’s important to be informed, but I think it’s also a good idea to not let myself get bogged down by depressing statistics. I am a firm believer in keeping positive, and listening to the sorrows of others is not going to help me keep that upbeat attitude. I don’t plan on burrowing my head in the sand, but I also refuse to let myself wallow in self pity. It’s just not healthy.

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    I think you are handling everything great! Your right you want to be informed but not to the point it brings you down. Stay positive. There are going to be times when it’s hard and the job will be stressful to both of you. But you are a strong couple and you will be fine. Just don’t read all the negative stuff. It will bring you down fast. And some people on those forums just thrive on drama. While Marine was gone I read a bunch of them and realized like you said, its good to be informed but sometimes for your own sanity you have to take a step back! 🙂

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