Preparing to Be a LEO Wife

My husband Joe, he was a cop. He gave me a taser gun once for our anniversary. -Earnes, Law & Order

Last night Match and I decided to venture out of our comfortable Vietnamese place for date night and went exploring different places for happy hour. I looked up places on my blackberry bold and we ended up deciding on the Elephant Bar. It was the perfect place for cheap drinks and appetizers and lots of people watching. I offered to be DD so Match could unwind from his long week. Things have gotten more stressful in the academy since they are down to 7 WEEKS! I’m starting to get really nervous/excited for what is in store for us. Over dinner I confessed some of my fears to Match, and told him about this website I found. Here’s a little excerpt from a law enforcement wife blissinprogress. Warning: This post made me cry.

Being a LEO wife means putting your husband first, not out of a sense of duty or out of submission or control, but out of love and respect for all he faces each time he walks out the door. You will learn to understand that being frustrated is normal, but being resentful and angry is not an option. Things that are a huge deal to most wives such as holiday traditions, the perfect birthday party, the family photo shoot scheduled for weeks, a date night you spent a month looking forward to, the biggest football game of your son’s high school senior year, your baby’s first ballet recital….all of those things to a LEO wife are considered just something else she may end up dealing with alone. Frustrating? Absolutely. Disappointing? Always. Worth sending your LEO out into danger knowing you are furious with him? Never. A LEO wife will learn to hold her tongue, tell him she loves him, kiss him goodbye, and say a prayer that he comes home so she can yell at him later. We are human, we still want what we want, but we learn to see the bigger picture.

The thing is, when I met Match, I didn’t know what I was signing up for. This is all so new for both of us. I know we will have some tough times ahead, and I know there will be moments where our patience is pushed to the limit. I expressed some of these worries to Geeky, and she said said that it will seem really tough in the beginning, but soon enough it will feel like second nature. She said that I’m a strong woman and if anyone can handle this it’s me. It was a very sweet reminder. Match agreed and said that he knows we’re going to be just fine. Match and I have dealt with stressful times, we have dealt with the graveyard shift, with multiple jobs, with the ups and downs of life and we can do this. I am so grateful for this blog as my outlet, for those times I will want to whine to Match about my day, when in reality his will have been far far worse than my very worst day. I’m grateful for my friends here in the blogosphere and my new recruit wife friends. I have a feeling in the next few months I will really need to lean on you all.

8 Comments

    Michelle

    Wow…you don’t realize how scary and dangerous it really is but gosh. When that time comes I’ll be keeping you both in my thoughts and obviously be here (e-here!) for you!

    E

    Ok yes that brought a tear to my eye cause it is so true!! I know this isn’t what you signed up for but you are such a strong person and you and Match have so much love I have no doubts that you will be fine.

    We are all here for you!! Blogging helps. There are times I know that I blogged about trivial things that bothered me cause I didn’t want to stress Marine. It always made me feel better and I’m sure it will you to! You didn’t judge my crazy moments, so promise I won’t judge yours 😉

    It will take some getting used to for sure but you and Match got this easy!

    Only 7 more weeks!

    LBDDiaries

    This is an amazing post. Truth is, the advice blissinprogress gave actually works for all marriages. Always send them out the door full of love, support and confidence. Save everything else for downtime! I really enjoyed this post!

    One of The Guys

    Sounds like a complicated road, but you guys will travel it together, and that will make manageable.

    Happy V Day! Have fun.

    fojoy

    It will be challenging, for sure – but I have no doubts you two will will only grow closer.
    Just make sure to look to each other for support, even when you might feel like turning away.

    phoebe

    i am the daughter of a LEO. I guess growing up i didn’t realize exactly how dangerous the world out there was. call it young and naive if you will.

    i can tell you now. that if the boy were to decide that career path, i don’t know how i would react. i know it would be tough on me. i mean. i jump at my own shadow, haha. i give you lots of credit.

    like others said, we’re all here for you 🙂 hugs!

    Brittany E.

    You know all the time you’ve been talking about this, I never thought about the business or the danger of a career like. I do think that will be difficult, but I agree with your friend. You will most likely become so used to it, and you will be so proud, that it will outweigh the frustrations.

    P.S.-I got my idea to do the scavenger hunt with Adam, kind of from your scratchers idea! So thanks so much.

    Brittany E.

    Hmm I dunno read or spend all day on the internet that is what I’m doing 🙂 Its rained here too, very yucky. SO much for it never raining in Southern California 🙂

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