The truth is hard. The truth is awkward, and very often, the truth hurts. I mean, people think they want the truth, but do they really? -Meredith, Grey’s Anatomy
This weekend as a Mother’s Day gift I took my Future In Laws to the Spring Release Party Birthday Twin’s winery was throwing. My Future MIL loves wine and BT’s family makes great tasting wines so it was the perfect gift. Unfortunately because of his schedule, once again Match had to miss out on all the fun. I didn’t mention my history with Birthday Twin because I felt like it was something the future in laws just didn’t need to know. This proved to provide for a rather awkward yet funny conversation later that day.
On the drive to the winery, MIL asked me how I knew BT. I didn’t really know how to answer, so I just mumbled that we’d met through a mutual friend about six months or so before I met Match. I found out that BT and Match knew each other from college and then we laughed at what a small world it was. I managed to skirt the relationship issue while still telling the truth and I gave myself a mental pat on the back.
I love visiting BT’s winery because I always feel like I get the royal treatment. It’s nice when you know the wine maker’s son who also happens to help run the winery. When we walked in and set off the door chime the first thing BT did was grab me for a big hug and tell me I looked great. I won’t lie; it feels good to hear an old flame say that. He looked genuinely sad when I said that Match couldn’t make it to the party for the second year in a row (Last year I brought Couple Wife). I introduced BT to Mom and Dad in law and I could tell that MIL was immediately under the BT spell. He has an enchanting personality and it’s easy to get sucked in.
The awkward and slightly funny conversation started as we were walking away from BT to check out the band playing outside.
MIL immediately started gushing about how handsome BT was, and wouldn’t it be great if he got together with Match’s younger sister? I sort of chuckled to myself because I’d had a similar conversation with Match. His younger sister Travel Girl is actually a lot like BT. She’s very free spirited and a bit of a heart breaker. In another life, if BT and I had never dated, I would try to hook them up in a heartbeat. As it is, the idea that my future Sister in Law could potentially date my former cuddle buddy is just too weird to wrap my head around. As Match so crassly put it: “I don’t really like the idea of my wife and sister having slept with the same guy. It’s creepy.” Ha!
I let MIL know that actually BT was dating someone and had been for quite awhile. I excused myself and went to visit with BT and share the joke with him. We both had a good laugh at what she said and then he told me he actually wasn’t that serious with his girlfriend. “So tell me about Travel Girl” he said to me. I punched him on the arm and said, “Fine you can meet her at the wedding.”
The rest of the day was a lot of fun hanging out with Match’s parents, sipping wine and listening the the band play. I missed Match but I’m grateful for having the kind of relationship with his parents where I can spend time with them by myself. I realize how lucky that is!
Yesterday Match and I spent Mother’s Day at his parents’ house. MIL told Match how she thought it would be so cool if BT were to marry Travel Girl, since all three of us share the same birthday. At that point Match felt it was a good time to blurt out that I dated BT before Match and I got together. I’m pretty sure my face turned three shades of red. Luckily Match’s mom didn’t seem to mind, but the subject of Travel Girl and BT quickly got dropped. And yes, I smacked Match for that comment later.
How was your Mother’s Day weekend? Have you ever had an awkward conversation like with your in laws?