If only you knew how mean she really is… You’d know that I’m not allowed to wear hoop earrings, right? Yeah! Two years ago she told me hoops earrings were *her* thing and I wasn’t allowed to wear them anymore. And then for Hannakuh my parents got this pair of really expensive white gold hoops and I had to pretend like I didn’t even like them and… it was so sad. And you know she cheats on Aaron? Yes, every Thursday he thinks she’s doing SAT prep but really she’s hooking up with Shane Ohman in the projection room above the auditorium! I never told anybody that because I am *such* a good friend! -Gretchen, Mean Girls
Thursday night was Geeky’s Cinco De Mayo Party. She invited me but I just wasn’t up for it. I think Geeky is great, she’s a lot of fun, but after this last Thursday, I’m disenchanted with the rest of her friends. I just couldn’t summon the energy to be around that crowd. I didn’t get a chance to write about what happened last Thursday at the comedy show that made me realize why I don’t have a lot of girlfriends.
So Match and I got invited to Straight Edge’s birthday party. Instead of just going out for drinks, she invited everyone to a comedy show. It was so much fun! That part I absolutely loved. I also loved that since it was pretty early in the evening, Match was able to go!
Geeky invited us out to a sports bar to have dinner and watch the Sharks Game (hockey, our local team here in Northern CA, yay!). I actually like hockey so we were all for it. At the last minute, Geeky texted flaking saying that her boyfriend wasn’t even there yet and to just meet them at the comedy show. I was bummed, but then as we were eating, Match and I were glad it was just us. We hadn’t had a date night in awhile and it was so nice.
After dinner we headed to the show. We were the first ones there besides Straight Edge. She gave us both a friendly greeting and we waited for everyone else to show up. Couple Wife came in, and I was happy to see her since it’s been awhile. Instead of greeting me with a smile, she gave me a really odd look. It was almost like, “What are you doing here?” kind of a look. I was heading forward to hug her, and her look made me falter. But I pressed on and just say hi. That’s when she started acting like a royal bitch. All she did was complain loudly about hating going to bars sober because she’s pregnant. Then she told Match he looked really skinny (not in a nice way) and then she flitted off with her best friend to find seats. That’s when the rest of the girls showed up, all in dresses, all with heavy amounts of makeup on. Meanwhile, besides Straight Edge, I’m the only girl in practical jeans and no makeup. It’s not like I was wearing hip hop clothing. I was dressed nice, but just not to the nines. It was a comedy show at a local bar, on a weeknight, and these girls were dressed like they were going out to a fancy club.
Geeky came in and was friendly as ever, but she was busy with her friends. I was so grateful to have Match there because otherwise I would have felt so alone. Couple Wife barely spoke to me and when I would try to enter into her conversation with the other girls, I felt like I was being shouldered out. They all sat in the front row, leaving no room for me or Match. What was also sort of odd is those girls that brought boyfriends or husbands didn’t sit next to them. They all sat together in some sort of wolf pack.
Match and I sat in the row behind them, and Couple Hubby sat next to me. Couple Wife didn’t seem to like that very much and started whining for him to come sit behind her. “Don’t you love me anymore?” she said to him. Then he said, “Actually I want to talk with DG.” I just mumbled, “Come on man, you’re making it worse!” but he just winked at me and grinned. I think he knew she was in a bad mood and he felt like teasing her.
Once the show started we had a great time laughing it up at the comedians. Geeky did her best to try to talk to me, and Straight Edge was sweet too, but they were the only ones. Afterward, on the drive home, I told Match I was stunned by the way I was treated by CW, who I thought was my friend. He reminded me that while she is my friend, she’s also young and can be immature at times. He said she was probably jealous that I’m hanging out with her group of friends, and maybe feels threatened by me. I don’t want to replace her in any way. I just want a few girlfriends to hang out with. CW is always so busy and has so many friends, I didn’t think it’d be a problem to share. She was the one who introduced me to Straight Edge and Geeky after all.
So I don’t know, maybe it was an off night. Maybe she’s cranky because she’s pregnant. Either way I was pretty disgusted with her attitude. When she’s not around those friends, Couple Wife can be very sweet to me. She even offered to take my engagement photos and my bridal shower. She’s a good person, but I did not like who she was that day. Yesterday I just wasn’t up for another evening of being the “outsider”. I’d love to get closer to Geeky and I have a lot of fun when we hang out. I’m just not sure if I fit in with the rest of that crowd, or that I even want to.
Do any of you have friends like this? Have you ever felt like an outsider to a tight knit group? How did you handle it?