Phoebe: The coins have forgiven me!
Rachel: Yeah, well I hope Monica forgives you after you throw her
vegetarian, voodoo, goddess-circly shower! –Friends
When Match and I started planning the wedding we agreed we wouldn’t have a bridal party. We’re each others best friends, and we didn’t want to choose between our different groups of friends. Still, as I’ve said before, sometimes I do wish I had a best girl friend to help me out with all things bridal because there are a LOT.
Two things I could really use bridesmaids for: the bridal shower and the bachelorette party. I can already picture myself having to download games to play at my own bridal shower. 🙁
Match and I both are lucky to have a lot of different friends, don’t get me wrong, we appreciate them all. But, we are the doers. We are the planners. Our friends happily go along for the fun, but we make it happen, we initiate, except for Couple Friends. Couple Friends have that cliquey group of friends that we’ve hung out with. They’re all nice, but we will never be a true part of that group, which is fine.
Still, just once, I’d love it if we were a true part of a close knit group, where it was unspoken and understood that if we had a big moment in our lives, they’d be planning a big party. Match is feeling the same sadness about his bachelor party. We might end up just doing a co-bachelor/bachelorette party and inviting all of our friends. We’ve got some time to plan. Hopefully we just won’t be the ones planning the whole thing. I think eventually when we get a nice house, we’ll love being the planners and hosting parties and get together. I do love being a hostess. I’ve been the hostess/planner since middle school. I think I’ve planned just about every birthday or big event for myself. Just this one time I was hoping someone else would be the one to host for me.
Anyone out there feel this way? Are you the planner of the group, or do you have someone that does all the planning? Did you have a bachelorette party?