Wedding Expo with the Future MIL

Rachel: What happened at dinner?
Monica: My parents spent the money for our wedding.
Phoebe: My god, what did you order? –Friends

Yesterday Match’s mom and I went to this big wedding expo, where we were able to do cake and wine tastings, talk to different representatives for wedding venues, wedding dress stores, tux rentals, and caterers. Basically a huge Wedding Fair. Needless to say I was in heaven!

Before going, I was a mixture of excited and stressed that Match’s mom was coming with me. I was afraid I’d break out with a wicked case of
chin acne from worrying about it. Match’s mom is great-she really is. But as I’ve written before, she can be very opinionated and strong willed, so I was nervous that her visions of our wedding would clash with mine. Also we hadn’t talked about Match’s parents contributing, and I’m a strong believer that if you want things a certain way, you need to contribute. Am I right? Especially with guest list size and so forth. Fine if you want to invite your family friend I’ve never met, but you better kick down on the bill.

So the expo ended up being a lot of fun, if a bit overwhelming. There were booths everywhere and it was loud. We got our wine tasting glasses and headed straight for the closet wine booth. We got to taste cakes, wine, and appetizers. We saw wedding dresses on display. There were DJ booths, photographers, and even a photo booth rental company that let us take cute pictures to try it out. There were tons of enter to wins, almost every table had a giveaway. Hopefully I won something!

Future MIL definitely had her opinions, but luckily they were similar to mine, at least concerning the venue. The problem was she was really interested in the super expensive places, and my frugal side said no way! She definitely turned her nose up at the idea of a golf course wedding, which we’ve been looking into, and she didn’t much like the idea of anything in my town but rather hers, which is only twenty minutes away, but still.

After the expo, we went back to Match’s parents house to meet up with Match and his dad for dinner. The plan was that we would discuss wedding plans in detail, and the hope was they would finally give us a dollar amount of what they were willing to contribute to our wedding. Neither Match nor I wanted to bring up the money issue because it’s just plain awkward. But as we looked up some of our favorite wedding venues from the wedding fair, she finally said, ok, let’s talk money and us helping. I told her we would appreciate whatever they wanted to do, but I didn’t want them to feel obligated. She gave me an amount and said they would have no trouble giving it, and that it was important to her that we have a nice venue that she help pick. It’s very generous! It takes stress off of me and Match because we were planning to pay half and then my parents pay half. Now it looks like we can split it between the two sets of parents, which is so nice.

Now Match and I can focus on saving for our honeymoon, and more importantly, our future! So we’ll see how this all pans out. I’ll let Match’s mom help plan within reason. But I’m strong willed enough to say no if she tries to decide everything for me. Wish me luck on this. I’m pretty sure this is going to make for excellent blog fodder!

9 Comments

    dreamer

    Good luck with the wedding plans! And i hope you win something from the expo that could help with your plans~ ^_^
    .-= dreamer´s last blog ..Love, Heartaches and Honesty =-.

    Young Wife

    Hello! Stopping by from SITS. I’m so glad both sets are parents are able to help you pay for the wedding. Best wishes for happy, stress free planning!

    Tina Lane

    Oh yes,the dreaded Wedding planning. Best of luck with all of this. It will be a beautiful day you will remember forever. Kudos to you for being brave enough to hit up the Expo with your future MIL.
    .-= Tina Lane´s last blog ..To the First Person Who Broke My Heart: Writer’s Workshop =-.

    Salt

    I’m so glad the money situation was handled! Honestly, that’s like the most stressful part of all of it (well for us it was anyway). I am with you 100% on if you want a say, you should pay. That was an issue that I had with my mother in the beginning of our planning, which ultimately led to us choosing a destination wedding instead.

    I didn’t go to any bridal fairs in the course of my planning and I kind of wish I had now. It sounds like you guys had fun!
    .-= Salt´s last blog ..Hair trial! =-.

    hotpantsâ„¢

    Regardless of someone else paying for it, don’t lose sight of the fact that it’s your day. You’re like the third or fourth bride-to-be that I’m following. I can’t wait to follow along as you plan.
    .-= hotpantsâ„¢´s last blog ..iLove Tuesday Tunes; I’ll Be There For You =-.

    One of The Guys

    This is fun. Brings me back a few years. Actually, I think it’s more fun reading about your wedding plans. It was pretty stressful. You’re dealing well!!
    .-= One of The Guys´s last blog ..How are you? A simple multiple choice question. =-.

    Ashley@ Just Another Mom of 2

    I’m glad it seemed to work out well at the end! Hopefully you can find a venue that works for both of you- but great news that they’re planning to contribute! Good luck with the continuing planning 🙂
    .-= Ashley@ Just Another Mom of 2´s last blog ..If I had an hour.. =-.

    Andre Nievo - Vermont Wedding Rentals

    It’s always been a stressful time if you are going to get married, the excitement is always there.

    Good luck to your honeymoon! 😉

    Tina T

    Good luck with all the planning. I’m glad you sound more happy than stressed, because even though it is such an important day, it is still just the first day of a lifetime together.

    Looking forward to hearing more about your plans.
    .-= Tina T´s last blog ..Are “The Rules” Empowering Women or Demeaning Them? =-.

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