- Rachel: What happened at dinner?
- Monica: My parents spent the money for our wedding.
- Phoebe: My god, what did you order? –Friends
Yesterday Match’s mom and I went to this big wedding expo, where we were able to do cake and wine tastings, talk to different representatives for wedding venues, wedding dress stores, tux rentals, and caterers. Basically a huge Wedding Fair. Needless to say I was in heaven!
Before going, I was a mixture of excited and stressed that Match’s mom was coming with me. I was afraid I’d break out with a wicked case of
chin acne from worrying about it. Match’s mom is great-she really is. But as I’ve written before, she can be very opinionated and strong willed, so I was nervous that her visions of our wedding would clash with mine. Also we hadn’t talked about Match’s parents contributing, and I’m a strong believer that if you want things a certain way, you need to contribute. Am I right? Especially with guest list size and so forth. Fine if you want to invite your family friend I’ve never met, but you better kick down on the bill.
So the expo ended up being a lot of fun, if a bit overwhelming. There were booths everywhere and it was loud. We got our wine tasting glasses and headed straight for the closet wine booth. We got to taste cakes, wine, and appetizers. We saw wedding dresses on display. There were DJ booths, photographers, and even a photo booth rental company that let us take cute pictures to try it out. There were tons of enter to wins, almost every table had a giveaway. Hopefully I won something!
Future MIL definitely had her opinions, but luckily they were similar to mine, at least concerning the venue. The problem was she was really interested in the super expensive places, and my frugal side said no way! She definitely turned her nose up at the idea of a golf course wedding, which we’ve been looking into, and she didn’t much like the idea of anything in my town but rather hers, which is only twenty minutes away, but still.
After the expo, we went back to Match’s parents house to meet up with Match and his dad for dinner. The plan was that we would discuss wedding plans in detail, and the hope was they would finally give us a dollar amount of what they were willing to contribute to our wedding. Neither Match nor I wanted to bring up the money issue because it’s just plain awkward. But as we looked up some of our favorite wedding venues from the wedding fair, she finally said, ok, let’s talk money and us helping. I told her we would appreciate whatever they wanted to do, but I didn’t want them to feel obligated. She gave me an amount and said they would have no trouble giving it, and that it was important to her that we have a nice venue that she help pick. It’s very generous! It takes stress off of me and Match because we were planning to pay half and then my parents pay half. Now it looks like we can split it between the two sets of parents, which is so nice.
Now Match and I can focus on saving for our honeymoon, and more importantly, our future! So we’ll see how this all pans out. I’ll let Match’s mom help plan within reason. But I’m strong willed enough to say no if she tries to decide everything for me. Wish me luck on this. I’m pretty sure this is going to make for excellent blog fodder!