Comments on: The Monster in Law Moment

By: Michaela

Michaela — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 02:15:14 +0000

You sounds like you have a great guy!! Good for him for sticking up for you to his mother, you’re right not all men would do that. Sorry to hear that the even didn’t turn out as well as planned… good luck at Thanksgiving!
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By: Tina T

Tina T — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 23:39:54 +0000

It is difficult in a situation like this, because once the words have come out they don’t go away even after the apology is made. Over time you will probably have more times like this, it’s just the families are.

Just think about how it would be if it were one of your family members who did this and not someone in his family. You’ll get used to forgiving his family the same way you would forgive your own. On the bright side, she must feel very comfortable with you to let this bad side of herself show in front of you. (actually, not sure if that’s the bright side or dark side) but families do weird things whether their you own family or your guy’s family.
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By: Michelle

Michelle — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 20:33:30 +0000

Oh my gosh, I had a moment that was SO similar to this last weekend, when L.’s parents were in town for the weekend. L.’s dad sounds a lot like Match’s dad–very reasonable, rational, really loves me and loves to have convos with me (is Match an only child or does the family have all boys? That’s the case (both) for L. and I think his dad always wishes he had a daughter.) Anyways, L. had to leave dinner early to prepare for the show he was in that night, so I had dinner for TWO HOURS with his parents. Normally that would have been great because I love them, but L.’s mom kept bringing up the topic of what would happen when we graduated from college next year. She stressed that L. really needed to move to California, where they live, so that he could keep his residency and have an easier chance getting into UC schools. Somehow the convo degenerated into her basically suggesting that I let L. go after college and pursue my career, and let him go to med school unencumbered, and we should date other people, and after that it’d be oh-so-nice when we found our way back to each other. I was really stunned. If I’ve learned anything in my life, it’s that if you find someone who truly makes you the best version of yourself, and really supports and gets you, you need to hang on to that, because opportunities and jobs etc. will come up–if not often–more often than great people. L.’s dad agreed with me, sticking up for me and telling L.’s mom that that situation is idealistic and never works, and if we really love each other we either need to make our post-college plans around each other or be prepared to fight for long distance. The worst part is that L. wasn’t there so he couldn’t really stick up for me, so he was just as shocked as I was. I’m still kind of hurt by it, and while I know she’s going through a lot right now and has apparently been that way with a lot of people, so it probably wasn’t personal, I can’t help but feel that it was.

Wow…sorry for the long comment…maybe I need to blog about this!
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By: pinkjellybaby

pinkjellybaby — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 13:12:40 +0000

I wouldn’t worry too much, it sounds like she was having a ’senior’ moment as I’d call it and got herself all in a state. I’m sure it was nothing to do with you and just down to her being in a funny mood x
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By: Suki

Suki — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 19:50:09 +0000

You must be really hurt and I understand that bit of doubt you feel.
Hopefully Thanksgiving turns out great for you.
Match must be such a wonderful guy. That he stood up for you is amazing
You are so lucky to have him.