Joey: These past couple of years, it’s been one big soap opera. I wouldn’t take it back. I wouldn’t… take any of it back, but… I’m glad that it’s over. ‘Cause I like the way things are now. My life being the cruel joke that it is, now that things are so nice… you’re leaving.Dawson: Jo… if I thought for one second it was the right thing to do, I would stay, but it’s time to go. It’s time for me to get out of this room, and it’s time for you to discover who you are without us. This chapter’s over, Jo. I can feel it. –Dawson’s Creek
Yesterday was the long awaited Beerfest, followed by a party at Old Married Couple’s house. It was an anticipated event for me for two reasons: 1. It’s a super fun festival where drink lots of beer and socialize with friends, and 2. Match was going to meet Best Friend for the first time. If you’re a new reader, read here for the whole Best Friend saga, and you’ll see why this was such a big deal for me.
Match is the first boyfriend who I’ve ever fully opened up about the Best Friend story, and told all the details to. So he knew what this guy was all about, and how embedded in each other’s lives we used to be. We still have all the same friends, and belong to the same group. The only reason Match hasn’t met BF yet is because BF lives in San Diego, and hasn’t been up to visit in over a year. So the day of reckoning came, and it was so much better than I expected.
BF has matured in the last year, and he’s changed for the better. He was genuinely happy to see me, but he didn’t pull his usual garbage of flirting with me in front of my boyfriend. I think he could tell right away that Match was different. There was only one awkward moment, and it came up when Match went to get us refills at the beerfest.
We were standing with another mutual friend, who was teasing me and said, “Everytime I see you, you’re with a different guy.” He was only playing with me, but it still hurt. BF looked at me and could see the hurt in my expression, and he stepped in and said, “That’s not true and you know it. There were at least 2 or 3 years where she was with one guy.” And he pointed to himself. My jaw dropped. BF has never once admitted to anyone besides me that we were in a relationship. It was always so hush hush. So for him to outright say we were together was actually very sweet. He grinned at me and said, “I’m just sticking up for you.” I thanked him, and it was a nice little moment.
I told Match what happened later, and he agreed that it was sweet. He also kept hugging me all night and said he couldn’t believe anyone wouldn’t want to admit they were with such a great catch. BF could see how Match fit right in with all of my friends, and how even the two of them could joke around together. They stood around talking guy talk about truck accessories and video games while I chatted up with Brazil and Old Married Wife. At one point in the day, Brazil and I were standing there admiring Match’s butt as he walked over to get us beers. “He’s got a great booty” she said to me. “He’s definitely a keeper, for the booty alone!”
On a little side note, Brazil brought her little girl, who is now 4 months old. When she saw me, Baby Girl gave me a huge smile, the first one she’s ever given me. I got a few more out of her, and for the first time felt like I really connected with her. When Brazil left, she came up to me and gave me a huge hug and said she knows I will be a great mom someday, she can just tell. It was heartfelt, and it meant a lot to me, because I of course do hope to be a good mom someday. Just not anytime soon!!
On the way home from the party, Match said he’d be ok with BF coming to our wedding someday. He said that he could tell that BF still has a thing for me, but he was respectful about it, and didn’t act inappropriately. He said as long as he continues to act that way, he has no problem with him. It meant a lot to me, because with all the crap I have been through with BF, he was my best friend, and is still a good friend, in spite of everything. It also felt so good to look at Match and BF in the same room, and know that absolutely without a doubt I am with the right person, that Match is my best friend now, and in a completely different way than BF ever was. I will always have a soft spot for BF, and I can’t tell you how happy I am knowing that I can still have him in my life, the way he always should have been, as my friend. It feels even better knowing I have Match, the man who appreciates what he has now, and not 3 years too late.