Comments on: Marriage-An Outdated Institution?

By: Esther

Esther — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 07:39:34 +0000

Hi. Even with the right man, marriage requires a lot of work. Don’t even talk about marriage, just being in a relationship.

I ve been with my bf for 9 years and I say it’s really the little things that count. If we keep brushing all the small things under the carpet, it’ll eventually become big and blow up in our faces.

Not only that, sometimes I feel like we’re old married couples and it’s good to once in awhile as you mentioned.. to ignite the spark.. to create some romance..

I wish you all the best in your marriage and I hope it’ll be a wonderful journey together despite the ups and downs! =)

By: Coast Sister

Coast Sister — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 15:34:20 +0000

I’m glad this is stirring up so much conversation and thoughts. I was just perplexed by this article. My parents have been married for 30+ years and BELIEVE me there have been up and REALLY down, downs. However, they always found each other in the end. It took work but they are still married and I think they are happier now than they were when we were all kids. ( I think 6 kids kind of bog you down a bit)

Personally, I want to believe in marriage. That’s one thing my husband and I discussed before getting married 6 1/2 years ago. I wanted to know how he felt about marriage. He said that divorce was not an option in his mind. His parents have also been married 30+ years. So I think we want to believe we can make it.

That being said, I have 2 sisters that have had some crazy marriages. Sometimes their fault, sometimes the husbands. So it’s not like a stand back and judge those that do get a divorce. I see that not everything is black and white. But personally, I hope it’ll be “til death to we part”.

By: Shannon

Shannon — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 22:15:32 +0000

I don’t know how I feel about marriage anymore. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 6 years and we’re very happy but I still don’t know if I want to get married. I think it’s partially because over the past 6 years we watched his parents who were together for over 30 years divorce and over the past year I’ve watched my mother who has been with my dad for almost 30 years have an affair and now their divorcing.

I don’t know if it’s realistic.

By: Brittany E.

Brittany E. — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 21:38:42 +0000

I just think so often people enter into marriage thinking it will be simple. But it takes a lot of work to keep a relationship going! I never really cared if I got married or not as a child, my mom is on her third marriage and my dad has been married 6 times. I just feel like I have learned for their mistakes, and expect us to have some rough patches eventually.

By: Date Girl

Date Girl — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 21:27:47 +0000

@E-I know from your blog just how much you worked on your relationship, and yours is definitely one where you can say you put the work in and it just wasn’t meant to be. But I don’t think you’re part of the statistic, at least not the ones that take the easy way out, because I know with Ex it was anything but easy.
@Suki & Rica- I agree, fight for it. At least put in the work before calling it quits.