The Generosity of Family

Jack: Gosh, Grace, it was so sweet of you to cook Will and Karen dinner.
Grace: Well, you know, I just figured after a long day at the divorce hearing, it would be nice to come back to a home cooked meal.
Jack: You’re so generous. I swear, if you weren’t Jewish, you’d definitely go to heaven.
Grace: Thanks Jack, and if you weren’t gay, you’d go there too.                                                         –Will & Grace

This past Saturday Match and I met up with one of his aunts, who is a real estate agent. She wanted to talk to us and educate us about being first time home buyers. It was a big step, even meeting with a Realtor.  We talked about what’s out there, and how this is the perfect time for first time home buyers. I told her that we only had half of what we needed for a down payment, so it would still be awhile before we could buy. She was still helpful, and showed us to a few places. Some of which were great, some downright scary. I left feeling sad that we weren’t quite ready, and knowing it would take us a long time to save up money for the down payment. But all of that changed on Sunday.

Sunday was of course Mother’s Day, and after Match finished up his intern shift at the fire station, we headed over to his parents house for dinner. I was excited because I bought M’s Mom a book that I love called The Color Code. For those of you who haven’t read it, it’s a personality profile book, and it’s completely interactive. Everyone can take the test and determine their color, and then the author breaks down the individual traits of each color. It’s surprisingly accurate, and I knew she’d enjoy it.

dinnerDinner was delicious as usual, with M’s Dad going all out on the bbq. As we sat drinking wine and eating our meal, M’s Mom told us she thought it was great that we met with her sister to look at houses the day before. She said now is the perfect time to buy, and that it was a “no brainer” for her to help us. That’s when I looked at Match who gave me a huge grin as she said: “So we’re going to loan you the other half you need for the down payment. This is a great opportunity for both of you and I don’t want you to miss out on it.” I sat there kind of stunned before thanking her over and over.

What’s nice is because of the big tax credit, we’ll be able to pay her back as soon as we get our taxes back for 09, so we won’t have this personal debt looming over us. I don’t think I’d like that very much. Also, I love that she is not only looking out for her son, but me as well. She said because we’re not married, she wants us to meet with a lawyer and be sure to draw up papers protecting both of us in case something happens to our relationship down the road. I love how practical she is, it’s that strong Virgo no nonsense way that we both have.

After dinner, we had dessert and I had everyone take the test in The Color Code. In case anyone is wondering (or in case you read the book at some point) she and Match were both blue with red secondary traits, while Match’s dad was yellow with white secondary traits. Me, I’m a blue with yellow. I won’t go into all the details, you should just check out the book at the library or something. I promise it’s fantastic.  We all had a great time laughing over the different qualities and how dead on the book was.

When M’s Mom read the card I got her, she got a little teary eyed. I basically thanked her for her part in raising such a wonderful son, and that he’s all that I could ask for in a man. I also thanked her for how welcoming they’ve been, and how much I feel like a part of the family. And that was before she gave us this huge gift. To me it isn’t just a generous gift. It’s telling us that she has faith in our relationship for the long haul. And that is the most generous gift she could ever give us.



    Wow, that’s wonderful. I am happy for you. It’s so wonderful that you don’t have to miss out on the house buying opportunity.


    A. Its so very cool, that Match’s parent believe in you guys enough to do that for you and B. it just reeks awesomeness all over.

    Does this make you feel like you are all grown up now? 🙂

    Date Girl

    Haha, I think once we have keys in hand I might feel like a grown up. But part of me still feels like a little girl playing house. Either way, I’m so so so excited!


    Wow thats great! And exciting… house hunting can be fun but stressful! Just due the math ahead of time ~ figure out what you can afford and be sure to get an inspection done before purchasing 🙂 Congrats! I’m so happy for you!

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