- Mr. Sheffield: Niles, I cannot believe Ms. Fine is going on a cruise just because some psychic told her she had a date with destiny. Would you pay someone if they only tell you what you want to hear?
- Niles: Absolutely, sir. You are so clever. And witty. And handsome. –The Nanny
Lately things have been really hard for Match financially. Between working full time for his mom, interning for free at the firehouse, and going to school part time, he has had zero time to work on studying for his real estate license, which would give him a significant raise at work. He can’t take a second job, because there aren’t 36 hours in the day. He barely has enough time to come home and eat dinner and sleep, much less do anything else. So the last thing I want him to worry about is money.
The thing is, I have no idea how to approach this. It’s a fragile thing, the male ego. Match is a very old fashioned guy, and believes he has to prove that he can provide for me. He has also talked about our relationship as being an equal partnership, and he wants to pull his own weight. He doesn’t want to be that freeloading guy with a Sugar Mama girlfriend. It’s this kind of thing that almost makes me want to talk to a psychic so they can just tell me what to say. My own personal psychic line to call up for all the hard questions in life. Do I pay for the utilities, or do I let him pay half? Do I help out, or watch him struggle just so he can save face?
I’m afraid if I just start paying for everything it will be a huge shot to his ego, and that he thinks I don’t believe he can provide for me, which isn’t the case. I have a huge amount of respect for what he’s doing, and I see that he’s working towards a goal that is all about creating a future with me.
Also, it’s not like he’s not contributing. He pays half of the rent, which is a huge chunk of change. He also does things for me constantly, such as cooking, cleaning, taking care of my (our) pets, and even giving me back rubs when I’m sore and tired from work. He spoils me, and I couldn’t ask for a better boyfriend.
Still, I wish there was something I could do to help him, to ease his stress. I know in part it is just something he has to go through, but I wish there were some way to know when it is going to get better for him. Maybe TeleMedium Phone Psychics will have the answer. 😉