People That Get Us

Let’s be honest. Sometimes there is nothing harder in life than being happy for somebody else. -Carrie, Sex and the City

I don’t know if anyone else has experienced this setback while in a relationship-your friends. When you have friends that aren’t happy in love, it is extremely hard to hang out, when you’re on cloud 9. I’ve been going through a rough patch with one of my good girlfriends, Reality Check. She’s been very unhappy in love, and it seems like there is constant drama surrounding her. It used to be ok-we’d go out, bitch about men, and I’d be in the same boat as her. Still even on those occasions, she’d be rude to new guys that would approach, and she’s always been the Miranda of my friends: fairly bitter and most of the time hates men. While I get that she’s unhappy, does that really prevent her from being happy for me? I couldn’t even tell her about Match wanting me to get my ring size, or how eager he is to get engaged. When I told her about it, she made a face and immediately started whining about her latest relationship disaster.

I’ve been unhappy in life, but I am still able to rejoice with my friends when things are going their way. What kind of a friendship do we have if we only get along when we are miserable? It makes me really reconsider our entire friendship, which makes me sad. Match and I decided we really prefer hanging out with other couples as much as we can.

So Saturday night Match and I invited over  Couple Wife and Couple Husband, the ones that are pregnant, for game night. I have so much fun with them, and I love that they get what Match and I have. They aren’t jealous or unhappy, and they get excited with us.

We played this great game called Catch Phrase-by far one of my favorites. If you don’t know how to play it, it’s pretty easy. You have a word, and you can’t rhyme it or spell it, and you have to describe it. It’s so much fun because you’re on a timer and it’s so easy to get worked up over it and everyone who plays can’t help but get excited. Match was hilarious! Sometimes how you end up describing a word is the funniest part. Couple Wife and I were teamed up against Match and Couple Hubby. We beat them 2 to 1 because honestly, we’re awesome. We had a blast and our cheeks hurt from laughing so much.

As we were finishing up the game, Couple Husband pointed out the word that was up next on the disc-he awwed and handed the disc to me. The word was propose 🙂 Then Couple Wife giggled and said, “Yeah, and we could be this word!” The next word after propose was witness. I told them all that would be a great way for me to be proposed to since I love board games so much. Match just grinned along with them and gave me a big kiss.

After they left and we were washing dishes, Match stopped and looked at me and said, “You know, I’m only waiting because I feel like I have to wait a certain amount of time. I wish I could propose sooner!” I know how he feels, and I feel the same way. I’m fine with waiting, there is no rush here, we’re talking about forever. But still, in some ways I can’t wait to be able to say we’ve been together 6 months, or we’ve been together a year. Somehow it seems like it will be more appropriate that way, or feel more real somehow.

I know both of us have been hurt before in love, and it would just be so nice to feel like we’re in the safe zone.  As we were going to to bed I told Match that time really doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things. We’ve both dated people for 2 years, and known almost the entire time that it really wasn’t going to work out. I’ve known in the first 10 minutes of meeting someone. So what is 4 months? I think I knew from day 1 that Match was different. I’m confident things are just going to get better and better; it will just be nice to add some time to that security-call it a time investment. I can’t think of a better use of my time. 🙂

3 Comments

    Jen

    It always sucks when your girlfriends don’t understand your relationship. And I hate to say it, but they are probably just jealous. I’ve had that problem SO many times, and I’ve learned that a real friend would be happy for you!

    Brittany

    I hate when friends cant be happy for you, it kinda hurts. I think a few times before I was dating Adam I would feel really jealous. But I never let that stop me from being happy for them.

    E

    I understand I’ve had similar experiences with friends. Part of my problem was I perhaps listened to my “Miranda” friend when I shouldn’t have. It’s because we have been friends so long you don’t want to cut them out of your life. But at the same time you have to do what is best for you! Good luck!

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